And that is the resounding thud of my head hitting the wall.....
over....
and over...
and over.
Take, for example, the conversation that Scott and I had the other day. We have recently bought a house, for those of you who haven't been keeping up. We are due to close on August 12, take possession of the house on the 16th. We were discussing how we wanted to go about picking up all of our respective stuff, in all it's respective places. Where this was going to go, where that was going to go, you know, the usual stuff.
At the end of the discussion, Scott informs me that he wants to be sure that I cook something so that we can set the precedent of eating at home more often, rather than going out all the time. I told him that was fine, but it depended on how much we did that day, and how tired I was. Nope, he didn't care if it was nuking hot pockets in the microwave, he wanted to eat in.
Fine.
I said I had my own stipulations then. I wanted to set my own precendent, in that I wanted to be sure we made love that first night we were in the house.
"I guess that depends on how tired I am....."
CRASH
CRASH
CRASH
Oscar Mayer Wienermobile crashes into Wis. home
Fri Jul 17, 9:01 pm ET
MOUNT PLEASANT, Wis. – One southern Wisconsin homeowner is probably not in love with the Oscar Mayer wiener. The famed hot dog's Wienermobile crashed Friday into the deck and garage of a home in Mount Pleasant, about 35 miles south of Milwaukee.
Police said the driver was trying to turn the Wienermobile around in the driveway and thought she was moving in reverse. But she instead went forward and hit the home. It sat in the driveway as if it were stuck in the garage Friday afternoon.
No one was home and no one was injured. No citations were immediately issued.
Both the home and vehicle suffered moderate damage, which Oscar Mayer spokeswoman Sydney Lindner says insurance will cover.
Police hadn't been able to speak to the homeowner as of early Friday evening.
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This story needs a picture!
Thakns- I couldn't get it to copy for some reason...lol
Could you not see it...years later the owner sits his grandchild on his knee to tell him about the Big Wiener in his house. And Grandma yells out.. "Only time we ever had a huge wiener in the house"
O.o
Yeap- I made it perverted. LOL
ATTAGIRL!!!
On the way home from work late one night, and the dj had one of those voices that just relaxes you- not screeching, not high pitched, not hyper...
Just low, slow and pleasant. Twas a classic rock station, one that I have discovered since working, and have fallen in love with for the music they play and their banter on air.
Reminds me of some of the djs I grew up listening to, and the music as well...
In his low melodious voice, he is describing being in traffic, when he looked up to watch the girl in the car behind him. This was how he described it:
" I watched her as she sat at the light as I did, and I could hear the music drifting from her open window. In my rearview mirror, I could see her lips moving, just ever so slightly, and I wondered.....
Was she singing along to the warm melody on the radio, or was her voice silent, and her lips only danced to the tune by themselves?"
NIghts like that make me glad I can still appreciate things in my own way...lol
If you've ever used an album cover for a dustpan. (yes)
If you've ever run a race barefoot in the middle of the street. (Yes).
If you had a candy lady in your neighborhood. (No)
If you ever had to pick your own switch or belt. (yes)
If you had to walk to or from school. (no)
If you ever used dishwashing liquid for bubble bath. (yes)
If you ever mixed Kool aid one glass at a time because you got tired of everyone drinking the pitcher of Kool aid you just made. (no)
If you ever played any of the following games...Mother May I, Freeze Tag, Red Light Green Light, Hide and go Seek. (yes)
If your neighborhood had an ice cream or icee cup man. (yes)
If you refer to "Now and Later" candies as "Niladers" (yes)
If you've ever run from the police on foot...and got away. (no)
If you ever had reusable bacon grease in a container on your stove. (yes)
If the batteries in your remote control were held in by a piece of tape. (yes)
If you have ever worn any of these fragrances....Jean Nate, Hai Karate, Old Spice, Chloe, Charlie, English Leather, Stetson. (yes)
IF you've ever used Tussy deodorant (yes)
If you've never been to the dentist. (no)
*my dad was a dentist- kinda hard to dodge him...
If you had a friend or family member whose nickname is the same word twice...Dee Dee, LeeLee, Ray Ray etc (yes!)
If you ever paged yourself for any reason (no)
If you ever wore house shoes outside of the house (yes)
If you ever drove on a donut more than 2 weeks after your flat (yes)
If you use "'n them" to describe a group of people..."mama n' them" (yes)
If you ever slept in a chair to avoid messing up your hair (yes)
If you ever left a social gathering with a plate of food (yes)!
If you don't have your own place but your child has a leather coat (no)
You constantly hit *69 and ask "did you just call here?" (no)
You think Tupac is still alive. (no)
If you hear a "loud rumble" tonite in the sky, don't worry. It's not thunder. It's Elvis beatin' the shit out of Micheal Jackson for marrying his daughter.
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~snort~ LOL
**Chortle**
Oh man I'd completely forgot about that little incident!
*shocked* :O
Since I didn't have to be at work until 5 pm (yet another bunch of drunk golfers, who hopefully will appreciate my southern charms and wiles and tip accordingly...lol) I decided to treat myself. I had to go fax something to WorkSafe BC, for that goofball fall I took in June, so I figured as long as I was out....
I went to Shopper's mart, and wandered through the makeup aisle for a long time. I enjoy this, God only knows why (waving at VW). I picked out a few new things ( I haven't bought new makeup since before I got divorced) picked up a few grocery-type items, then decided I wanted to treat myself to lunch. So I stowed my stuff in the car, and walked the 4 blocks to Taco del Mar (see "pick your own ingredients" Tex-Mex place).
The sun was out, there was a gentle breeze, and it was cool outside, something I never got to enjoy ANYWHERE else I have ever lived in the summer. I had lunch, and as I was walking back to the car, I was listening to the sounds of the city around me. There was a guy on the corner playing the guitar and singing his heart out, and very well I might add, there were people laughing and drinking coffee on the patio of the Starbucks, I passed a woman with hot pink hair who smiled at me at the cross walk, and I followed an old couple for a block who were whispering in each other's ears and holding hands.
I took a deep breath, and let it GO. I listened to that inner voice of mine that told me I wasn't as bad a person as I thought, certainly not as bad as others back home had wanted me to believe.
I remembered all the great comments here in my last journal entry, from people I have "known" for years, never met in person, but I feel like I could spot them anywhere, who told me the same thing, people who knew me better than people who supposedly loved me and knew me in person for years back home.
I realized that if I just let myself, I could be very happy here. The area is wonderful, we just bought a new house, I have a husband who adores me, a family that thinks I am the bee's knees, and friends at a job that I also adore and enjoy and work hard at.
I realized that while starting over was probably the hardest thing I have ever done, it was probably the best thing I could have done for myself, and that in the shape I had been in, I was absolutely useless to everyone including Connor and especially myself.
I think I'm going to be ok. It isn't going to all go away, not ever, but it will get easier, with time, help, and support.
I will survive.
And then I got in the car, and "Bohemian Rhapsody" was playing on the radio.
I SO sang along...LMAO
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Yeah!!!! Sounds like you finally know what we all know those folks were idiots! you're awesome! Glad things are so good for you sugar, you so deserve happiness.
AMEN... esp the part about how hard, and the rewards from it. While I can't fully understand your situation- I empathize with my own and what we've been through, and I think we are better if not different for what it has taught us.
.. the journey is long and arduous, but the view is excellent.
I worked a wedding last night.
It was a "mixed" wedding, as they so often are here in lovely Canada.
The bride was Polish, and Canadian, with quite the temper. She had already pissed off the sales people and organizers of this little soiree. She snapped at her bridal party as they were trying to get organized to walk into the room and be announced (the bar had been set up in the studio, to be explained later). So I quietly walked up to her with a glass of club soda, and the bar menu to wave at her to help cool her off (she seemed really grateful for that, and was a lot more amenable, for which everybody ELSE was grateful, lol)
The husband was Muslim, and American, with a traditional Muslim family, hence the bar being set up out of sight in the studio, although thank all the GODS that these people not only drank, but drank high end, even if they were evenly divided between people who tipped highly and people who tipped not at all...
About 30 minutes into the function, this woman walks into the studio, with her 4 month old, gets comfortable on the couch, and proceeds to breast feed her baby. The husband came in to check on her periodically, and of course I had no choice but to watch, and ponder....
Why hadn't I had that?
Why didn't I have a husband who watched over me and made sure I was alright until I WAS alright?
Watching her breast feed that baby, I could painfully remember exactly how it felt, how happy I was, when I finally got on the same page with Connor, and he could breast feed. I could achingly feel exactly what it felt like when he fed, and how easy it was with just us two during that time, and I wondered...
Why couldn't God make me be a better mother?
Why did things have to get SO bad, before ANYONE realized or cared that there was a problem?
Why couldn't I have just been the good mother that everyone always assumed I would be, and that I had hoped I would be when I had a baby?
What is wrong with me, that I couldn't do the simplest of things, like breast feed Connor? He was 4 months old before we finally got THAT right, and nothing else ever worked out. Why?
Why couldn't I just be happy then?
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Hugs Puppy. ....
Remember....not everyone is intended to be a role model Mom. (Remember the conversations in KY about kids?)
But I think it takes a strong person to understand their weaknesses and do what is best for someone else.
The past is just that...past.
We can't go back and do over the things we regret. We also do not do ourselves or anyone else and good focusing on the things we could have done better.
You did not have a stable and happy base to live from back then. We and our actions are all based in the environment we operate from.
Try not to be so down on yourself. Aknowledge that the past was far from perfect and try to move on making the present and future as good as you can.
Oscar-winning actor Karl Malden dead at 97 (AP)
LOS ANGELES - Karl Malden, the Academy Award-winning actor whose intelligent characterizations on stage, screen and television made him a star despite his plain looks, died Wednesday, his family said. He was 97.
Malden died of natural causes surrounded by his family at his Brentwood home, they told the Academy of Motion Picture Arts & Sciences. He served as the academy's president from 1989-92.
"Karl lived a rich, full life," Academy president Sid Ganis said. "He has the greatest and most loving family; a career that has spanned the spectrum of the arts from theater to film and television, to some very famous commercial work."
While he tackled a variety of characters over the years, he was often seen in working-class garb or military uniform. His authenticity in grittier roles came naturally: He was the son of a Czech mother and a Serbian father, and worked for a time in the steel mills of Gary, Ind., after dropping out of college.
Malden said he got his celebrated bulbous nose when he broke it a couple of times playing basketball or football, joking that he was "the only actor in Hollywood whose nose qualifies him for handicapped parking." He liked to say he had "an open-hearth face."
Malden won a supporting actor Oscar in 1951 for his role as Blanche DuBois' naive suitor Mitch in "A Streetcar Named Desire" — a role he also played on Broadway.
He was nominated again as best supporting actor in 1954 for his performance as Father Corrigan, a fearless, friend-of-the-workingman priest in "On the Waterfront." In both movies, he costarred with Marlon Brando.
"When you worked with him, he was the character," said Eva Marie Saint, who garnered a supporting actress Oscar for her role in "Waterfront." "He was the consummate actor and he loved acting. He was dear and smart. Whatever he did he enjoyed life."
Among his other memorable roles were: "Birdman of Alcatraz" opposite Burt Lancaster; "I Confess" with Montgomery Clift; "How the West Was Won;" and "The Cincinnati Kid" opposite Steve McQueen and Edward G. Robinson.
His more than 50 credits included "Patton," in which he played Gen. Omar Bradley, "Pollyanna," "Fear Strikes Out," "The Sting II," "Bombers B-52," "Cheyenne Autumn," and "All Fall Down."
One of his most controversial films was "Baby Doll" in 1956, in which he played a dullard husband whose child bride is exploited by a businessman. It was condemned by the Catholic Legion of Decency for what was termed its "carnal suggestiveness." The story was by "Streetcar" author Tennessee Williams.
Malden gained perhaps his greatest fame as Lt. Mike Stone in the 1970s television show "The Streets of San Francisco," in which Michael Douglas played the veteran detective's junior partner.
Douglas was 28 when he earned his first major break on the detective series with Malden, who was 60. He recalled that Malden often called him "buddy boy."
"He was fantastic. He just had a tremendous discipline, tremendous ethics," Douglas told AP Television News on Wednesday. "He insisted that next's week's script would be there when we was shooting that week's script. Every time between setups, between breaks, we'd go in the trailer and run lines for the next's week's show. That's the kind of discipline, training I got from Karl."
Douglas saluted Malden last month when he received the American Film Institute's Lifetime Achievement Award.
"It was Karl who, more than anyone, got me to understand that an actor is just one part of a whole team that makes a TV series or movie work," Douglas said at the event, which will be televised July 19 on the TV Land channel.
In the '70s, Malden gained a lucrative 21-year sideline and a place in pop culture with his "Don't leave home without them" ads for American Express.
"The Streets of San Francisco" earned him five Emmy nominations. He won one for his role as a murder victim's father out to bring his former son-in-law to justice in the 1985 miniseries "Fatal Vision." He and Saint played husband and wife.
Malden played Barbra Streisand's stepfather in the 1987 film "Nuts;" Adm. Elmo Zumwalt Jr. in the 1988 TV film "My Father, My Son;" and Leon Klinghoffer, the cruise ship passenger murdered by terrorists in 1985, in the 1989 TV film "The Hijacking of the Achille Lauro."
He acted sparingly in recent years, appearing in 2000 in a small role on TV's "The West Wing."
In 2004, Malden received the Screen Actors Guild's Lifetime Achievement Award, telling the group in his acceptance speech that "this is the peak for me."
Malden first gained prominence on Broadway in the late 1930s, making his debut in "Golden Boy" by Clifford Odets. It was during this time that he met Elia Kazan, who later was to direct him in "Streetcar" and "Waterfront."
He steadily gained more prominent roles, with time out for service in the Army in World War II (and a role in an Army show, "Winged Victory.")
"A Streetcar Named Desire" opened on Broadway in 1947 and went on to win the Pulitzer Prize and New York Drama Critics Circle awards. Brando's breakthrough performance might have gotten most of the attention, but Malden did not want for praise. Once critic called him "one of the ablest young actors extant."
Among his other stage appearances were "Key Largo," "Winged Victory," Arthur Miller's "All My Sons," "The Desperate Hours," and "The Egghead."
Malden was known for his meticulous preparation, studying a script carefully long before he stepped into his role.
"I not only figure out my own interpretation of the role, but try to guess other approaches that the director might like. I prepare them, too," he said in a 1962 Associated Press interview. "That way, I can switch in the middle of a scene with no sweat."
"There's no such thing as an easy job, not if you do it right," he added.
He was born Mladen Sekulovich in Chicago on March 22, 1912. Malden regretted that in order to become an actor he had to change his name. He insisted that Fred Gwynne's character in "On the Waterfront" be named Sekulovich to honor his heritage.
The family moved to Gary, Ind., when he was small. He quit his steel job 1934 to study acting at Chicago's Goodman Theatre "because I wasn't getting anywhere in the mills," he recalled.
"When I told my father, he said, `Are you crazy? You want to give up a good job in the middle of the Depression?' Thank god for my mother. She said to give it a try."
In 2005, the U.S. Postal Service honored Malden by naming the post office in Brentwood to honor his achievement in film and his contributions to the Citizens' Stamp Advisory Committee, which meets to discuss ideas for stamp designs.
Malden helped create the "Legends of Hollywood" stamp series that has featured Marilyn Monroe, James Dean and Gary Cooper, and another celebrating Hollywood's behind-the-scenes workers.
"As a kid, all the letters that would come from the old country, he would see the stamps and they always intrigued him," said David Failor, executive director of stamp services for the Postal Service. "He was such a regular guy."
Malden and his wife, Mona, a fellow acting student at the Goodman, had one of Hollywood's longest marriages, having celebrated their 70th anniversary in December.
"That was sort of the last goodbye," said Saint, who attended a party in the couple's honor. "His wish was, `After I die, I don't want you to do anything but have a party.' So another party is coming up."
Besides his wife, Malden is survived by daughters Mila and Cara, his sons-in-law, three granddaughters, and four great grandchildren.
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Sinora
11:36 Jul 30 2009
Lmao...fairs fair.
LadyChordewa
05:45 Jul 31 2009