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Got in a strange mood the other day and decided I needed a change. 1 hour later and about 5 inches of hair shorter, I've got the bouncy (too curly) cut that feels and looks very different.
How is it that when things are feeling too much a simple thing like a haircut can release the tension? Well it did for me at least. lol It's now up to the nape in the back and slants down to chin level in the front, kind of a swingy style.
The strange part is folks that I see often but don't really know have taken the time to tell me how great the new cut looks on me. Go figure! But I'm mostly happy with it, getting used to not having a ponytail to play with when I'm bored.
Onto a bit of a rant:
Was out looking through the members thinking it'd be fun to find someone to invite into the house but I keep running into a problem. I wonder if folks know just how bad a first impression it gives for your kismet to be totally misspelled and dumb looking?
Yep I'm old school where you write as you speak, full words and puncutation make it look nice and that reflects on you. So when I look at a member and their kismet is filled with i instead of I and text spelling it just really turns me off.
I hate that about myself, I know I may be missing out on meeting some great folks and I'm letting my prejudice control me but it's just so hard to totally ignore. Misspelling a word every now and again isn't the real problem, everyone does that but to never even care if your thoughts are readable or understandable strikes me as just so lazy.
Maybe I shouldn't have learned to type business letters and that proper language is very important in making yourself known especially for the first time, but I did and now I cannot seem to unlearn it.
Oh! they know they just don't care anymore, they would rather you work to figure out what they are saying instead of thinking of how to spell the word right.
I like the song and the video. Thank you for sharing.
Veteran's Day thoughts
13:00 Nov 11 2010 Times Read: 845
Thought I'd watch a bit of news this morning, usually I just get it online and read what interests me, often from the BBC as I don't feel it's as slanted as US reports. But this morning every other commercial was a Veteran's day sale but no where about is a word of tribute or care about our soldiers.
Regular citizens have always taken the military for granted to a degree simply because of the seperation while they serve. But the way it's becoming more "politically correct" to just pretend they don't exist is offensive to me and I hope to most of you as well.
You don't have to support war or conflict but if you enjoy having the right to speak your mind, try to better yourself through education or a job or so many other freedoms we take for granted every day then remember what Veteran's day is really about and it doesn't involve sales.
Thank you and bless all who serve, have served and those who gave their all and their families.
A lot of folks here talk about "drama" and if humans are involved then it's going to happen in real life or online.
In my case, I either ignore the folks that seem to thrive on starting trouble or confront them directly but politely. There's no need to compound the situation by jumping in aggressively and getting nowhere fast.
As I recently experienced a very low rate on my portfolio (not a revenge rate just an out of the blue rate) and since I had recently updated it, I had to question was there something there that might have offended a member? When I didn't see it, I politely messaged the member who rated me low and asked why? I ddin't ask for the rate to be changed, as it doesn't matter but if there's something bad there I want to know about it.
What I found was as usual, a member who likes to start trouble was spreading a lie that "sires" including myself were down rating members just for meanness. The one who rated me low had no problem with my port just had been mislead to believe I was acting like a jerk to other members.
I told this member then if he was told I had downrated a member it was a lie and dared it to be proven. I also explained that I rarely rate anymore and never while a member is new and hasn't had time to learn how to set up their profile.
I also suggested he ask himself why a supposed "friend" here would send him out on a mission of low rating sires if not to get him embroiled in fights all over the site and thus take any fun from VR away from him?
After we spoke, both in polite messages to each other, he was asking himself this very question I think and learning one of the hardest lessons around, not everyone who acts like a friend, really is a friend.
I'm not sure if it's an age thing or not but I've discovered I'd much rather deal with things head on or face to face than letting it fester and continue unchecked. Even if I'm in the wrong it's much easier to just face up to it and apologize.
I had done something wrong at work a few years back and had no ideal about it (the rules changed daily so you could never be sure) but I was called into the Captain's office and he confronted me with it... I thought a minute to remember the incident that had happened months earlier and then I just looked him in the eye and apologized and told him I'd be sure never to do it again.
No excuses or attempting to say it never happened just yep I screwed up and I'm sorry. He stared at me for a few moments while I stood there in front of him then he threw down the paperwork and stood himself before saying to me: Well Hell if you're not going to try and get out of it, go back to work.
I guess my face was strange because he explained.. I'd only have been in real trouble and in for disciplinary action, if I'd tried to lie about it. I watched from then on and whenever an employee was fired or "asked to resign" it wasn't for doing wrong it was for lying to the disciplinary board about it. lol A lession I've never forgot and still follow.
Excellent post. Honesty is always the best policy, although it is very difficult when it comes to friends.
I can tell you that the hardest thing to do, is telling the truth, to someone, that you know it will destroy their life. I have had to do it to 3 "best" friends. I lost the first one, who claimed I was a liar. The second and third, ended in divorces from their spouses. After that, only one continued to trust me. For some reason, telling the truth, was just as bad as lying. All I can say, is I try.
One of the biggest things I have a problem, bit here and in real life, is people who absolutely refuse to own up to their mistakes, and will either flat out lie or try and pass the buck to someone else. It's insulting to me to have someone just lie to my face when they know I know the truth.
Yup honesty really is the best policy. Besides...you don't have to remember your own lies for the next time someone calls you on it.....lol. Tell the truth and your memory is usually spot on...every time.
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Vampirewitch39
14:04 Nov 17 2010
How are we best friends? Sorry... i was going to tyep it like u reau it.
*smiles...and runs*
PAGAN
14:48 Nov 17 2010
LOL :)
ladySnowStrixx
16:09 Nov 17 2010
Oh! they know they just don't care anymore, they would rather you work to figure out what they are saying instead of thinking of how to spell the word right.
RedQueen
22:12 Nov 18 2010
Proper spelling on your profile and kismet is like wearing nice clothes to a job interview- first impressions matter