21:32 Apr 24 2015
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It really shouldn't take "The System" or an "Angry Mother" to force a real man to do what's right. That woman didn't have sex by herself and conceived a child. Whether the relationship works out or not regardless of the reason, Men should support their child and be in their child's life whether by mutual agreement with the mother or take it to court if she's the drama starting type. I too was in "The System". Not by anything I did wrong, but just because my Son's Mother used him as a meal ticket. She had two other kids from two other men, but those men were in prison and she had only a High School education at that time. He was in my custody while pending divorce and she grabbed him from my Day Care and left the state. Once the divorce was finalized, she sought child support through the state and lied about never saying the child wasn't mine resulting in an extra $10K in arrears having to be paid. It did take the state to force her to participate in a DNA test which she had been refusing for years! Men...ALWAYS get a DNA test. Even when you are sure your woman never cheated. Get one anyway! So anyway, she was surprised that he was mine and not only did I pay child support for the next 14 years to include the arrears, but I covered the expenses when he was in my custody for a total of 30 days each year while she still collected child support during that 30 Day period. I was in the military and 30 days per year was all the leave time allowed. In the end, she even attempted, without talking to me first, to have 'The System' continue to have me pay for an additional 6 months after his 18th birthday since he was still in High School, however, 'The System' backfired on her. They garnished my pay for the additional 6 months alright, but they never gave the funds to her. She called them monthly and argued and probably cursed them out too and then actually had the nerve to call me and try to get me to call them on her behalf...WTF? She was tripping then. At the end of the 6 months, 'The System' returned every dollar garnished over those 6 months to me! Can you say Karma? I gave my son half of the money and he used it to leave her and come live with me where he is now in college studying to be a Medical Assistant. No matter how much I may dislike his mother, I never allow him to disrespect her. For better or worse, she is his Mother and he did make it to the age of 18 without the state removing him from her custody as an unfit Mother, although it came close to that once or twice.
Men, you fucked a female, now fuck your feelings and do right by YOUR child.
Regardless of the drama coming from a female, it is The State/System that imprisons for lack of paying child support and not the female. The System which includes Voters are tired of paying for the responsibility and choices of others. Voters are saying, "Hey, you're taking my hard earned money by way of taxes and giving it to others who choose not to support the child they made. What does that have to do with me?" The more children born in which a parent can't adequately support, the more of a financial and administrative drain it has on the state as well as the Federal Government. So the state is simply saying to parents (and females are paying Child Support too let's not forget that) support your responsibility or pay the consequences because one way or another, we are not going to let your child starve. Furthermore, there are steps and warnings prior to anyone going to prison for lack of paying child support. It's not like it was a surprise that it was going to happen. One can not just say Fuck The System forever before the System turns around and Fucks you back. Also, it would be too large of a burden for case workers to try to review every receipt from every parent who is collecting Child Support to prove they are buying things for the child only especially when the money is also used for utilities, gas and just living expenses that other family members are also benefiting from. I don't ever see that happening. Hell, most people don't even keep their receipts for Tax Credits let alone trying to prove something on a monthly bases. If a Man or Woman wants to take the power out of the hands of the other parent and the system.....just simply Pay what has been ordered or lawyer up and get Custodial Custody of your child.
One thing I've learned in my 46 years on this human journey is one of the worse feelings is to feel powerless. A person that feels powerless and still wants something done will always seek out who they feel has the power to get it done for them. People who involve law enforcement, state or federal officials, employers, family and friends into personal matters between themselves and others are do to the fact that they have unmet expectations and they feel powerless to force someone else to do something they simply expect them to do. The world would be a better place if people just knew how to compromise and treat each other better and with respect. Keep outside people out of your personal shit and deal with your own issues. However, this isn't a perfect world so the games will always be played.
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xXxPaynexXx
18:39 Apr 30 2015
-cracks up-
Oodelollie
19:11 Apr 30 2015
My theory, he either has to compensate for something or choose to forgo his masculine identity all together.
Either way it screams of tiny dick syndrome.