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03:45 Feb 22 2025
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Today I finished ordering everything for my kitchen. I’ll be staging the boxes in my son’s empty room (since he moved out), waiting, maybe only 7ish months. Depends on the timeline of my dog’s training.
I am so excited! I’m going to have the kitchen inventory of my dreams 😁
00:19 Feb 21 2025
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Well… things are kind of up in the air with where I’m going go at this point at the end of the year. My big reason for moving out of state is that I thought it would be easier with the divorce – but since Scott and I have started to get along better than ever, it really doesn’t seem necessary to go so far as to leave the state.
Not only that – thinking about some things like, being in school… I’m in a specific program with the VA covering my tuition and my counselor is Louisiana-specific. This was approved in Louisiana and if I moved to another state, I would have to get another counselor who might not necessarily be on board with Film School. I definitely wouldn’t want to mess up my schooling by moving out of state before I graduate.
My son lives in a really great apartment complex in Metairie (still in the New Orleans Metro area) and I spoke with him to ensure it wouldn’t be too close for comfort if I actually got a place there as well. He is totally cool with it and so I think that’s what I will do. He lives in a very walkable area and everything would be at my fingertips there.
I’m really excited about this because I have never lived alone in my entire adult life (I’ve been legal out for more than 33 years). I went straight out of the barracks to getting married to Scott. I’m looking forward to being able to make something completely on my own without asking somebody else if they like it or they’re cool with whatever I’m going to put on the wall LOL
I have been building a list on Amazon for my kitchen. I’ll be getting all brand new stuff as I am leaving everything here with the exception of things that are very specifically mine that Scott would never use. But he’s not going have to worry about buying new things for himself at all. He’ll have everything he needs here.
16:03 Feb 15 2025
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Made the single relationship status Facebook official a little bit ago. Really, I just made a post and disabled the comments so nobody talks any crap… Definitely wanna avoid any shit-stirring people because he and I don’t have any issues with each other. Things are smoother with us than they have ever been.
Chapter 2 of life en route!19:40 Feb 11 2025
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Really, 22+ years in the making… I am getting divorced. We’ve talked about it for years, but I never really knew what I was going to do or how I was going to do it. But we have been in separate rooms all of these years.
About a week and a half ago I had a talk with him and we agreed that we could get divorced amicably and stay friends. I told him that as long as the rest of my time here is stress-free, I will agree to waive my rights to his retirement and alimony (I do NOT need it). Being married for nearly 30 years, I am entitled to half of his retirement. But I won’t take it. I also told him that I will only take what’s in my bedroom and certain things in the kitchen that he would never use. We shook hands on it lol… Then gave a hug.
So zero drama, no hard feelings… And no one needs to say, “oh I’m so sorry”… There needs to be a huge damn congratulations because we’ve both needed to move on forever. In fact, we joked that when we get our divorce papers we will take a selfie together with a huge smiles on our faces LOL
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At the very least, it’ll be like seven months before I can go anywhere because I’m still working on my dog’s service training. I am also on the waitlist for “Guitars 4 Vets” and I want to finish that program.
I have a place to land when I leave and it’s someone I’ve known since high school. Later, we were also stationed in the Marines together in Japan. Over the years we’ve played World of Warcraft together, even with my husband and son. So this is no stranger. I know I will be safe.
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My husband and I also agreed to keep this off of Facebook – so any of you who are connected to both of us, please don’t mention any of this stuff there (even if you’re not connected to both of us – don’t make any comments on my posts there about this). We don’t like to talk about personal things on mass social media… This place is different because- it just is.
My son is also cool with this – as he’s also known for all these years that we’ve been separated living under the same roof, and I know he wants us both to be happy. We will all get along just fine. This is the best case scenario. So many people have nightmare divorces, and that’s not going to be what happens here.
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