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I grew up Christian so theres that mindset that if you follow Jesus Christ you will go to heaven and you shouldn't fear death. but lately as each birthday goes by and I get older and more friends and family pass away I have started to fear death. how will I die? will it hurt? and most importantly where am I going when I die? I haven't been following my religion like I should and I really don't want to. I want to just be myself. but I think of dying and think where am I going? to hell to heaven? to a whole new dimension? or does it just end? no afterlife? ive never been so scared lol I like to believe when I die ill go to the most beautiful forest with superpowers and all the animals talk and I am a queen.

I think this is...well...it's obviously natural to fear death. The fear of death, the uncertainty of what happens afterwards is, in my opinion, the cause of religion. I don't know, that's just what makes sense in my mind. I don't have any sources to back that up or anything. I feel like religion was created as a means through which to explain away such a large question mark. This is something that's on my mind a whole heck of a lot. I'm not sure what I think is going to happen after I pass on...but like you I was raised a Christian. Baptist to be exact...but really my family was just a regular working class family and my parents worked every day so we never went to church. Ever. Except for, well, when I was a kid I went to a church youth service on Wednesday nights just to have something to do. That being said, we never took church seriously, we were never devout Christians but being raised in this part of the world I have this mindset or this thought in the back of my mind of heaven and hell, and the prospect of ending up in either place. Even though I don't have any set religious beliefs, I'm not a Christian, I don't know, none of that stuff is a way of thinking that I personally subscribe too, and yet that thought is still there for me, the thought of hell. I guess because it's something so talked about in this part of the world, it was how I was raised, and the concept is so prevalent in pop culture. I wonder if...say in other cultures, like cultures that created "bogey men" to scare their children into being good, I wonder if those kids grew up understanding that those stories weren't real, and yet they always had the thought of that something ominous in the back of their mind because it's how they were raised.
I am not certain that posts with religious connotations will be allowed to remain open, but I'm not a dominar. :) I think it may have a chance if there is more of a discussion element here, like how religious beliefs, and the thought of the after life differ and I don't know, all that junk. I'm not great at creating discussions anymore.
Anyway, I have no clue what I believe will happen after death, I mean for myself like most everyone it's an enormous uncertainty, and it's something I worry about. I really do. But like you've mentioned, even though I do not identify as a Christian the thought of heaven, and more predominantly, hell still lingers in the back of my mind.

not at all, actually looking forward to it

Not scared to die. Sometimes I am a little afraid how I will die ( I hate pain). But as for Death I believe that's just the next big adventure

hell definitely lurks on the back of mind. if I never heard there could be a hell I wouldn't be afraid of death. I was always suicidal and craved the end of this life but never did it because of the fearof hell. I envy those who aren't afraid of death. even when I follow my religion and its practices I still think what if I'm not good enough? I guess that's where faith comes in, faith in God and his "salvation" my best friend had a dream back when I was compromising my faith and doing things I know I shouldn't do . an angel was pointing at me telling her "repent before its too late, repent before its too late" I had a similar dream of an angel drowing me in a bathtub sayig "repent" and I kept seeing the flames of hell everytime I was dunked under the water. coincidence? I think not

I am not affraid to be dead. what I fear is HOW I will die, and also if I am "not really dead" and only sort of parylised (you now all those horror stories) and end up bury alive... This is what scares me the most

I do not fear death, and really speaking, why should anything? why fear something that will sooner or later catch you? because until then it will always be nipping at your heels. You may as well look forward to it, eternal retirement from the boringness of your life.

Fearing death is pointless. It's every living beings inevitable fate. No need to fear or overthink, enjoy now. You cannot live the rest of your days in fear, if you do your spirit dies, and then you're pretty much dead already. We live to die, and are slowly decaying. Don't fear, relish.

it's natural to fear death.
Well,for most.
If people didn't have this fear..
then many would just die without a care
in the world.
Like the fear of heights,or the fear to
drown in deep water.
It's natures way of saying..
'HEY! don't do this,you must live and learn and move on.'

some of us..
the 10% of us..Don't fear it.
not much at all because either we died before and
know this process..and become famillar with it,
or we have nothing to loose or hold onto.

The final step of Earthly existence. No fear.

Nothing is final.
Death is merely a transformation of energy.
Back to what you originally are.
Spirit. Energy.
Imagine yourself like a butterfly coming out of your human suit.
Death is a necessary chaos because the world isn't meant for overgrowth in population.

Scared either way...even if there is something afterward, I don't want to think of not being with my family every day...

I was scared as a child because I thought I had God, Jesus,
Granpa, Dad, Brother all ahead of me!

Now with just 2 left God and I, I'm not afraid at all. Its
like being on a roller coaster and you see the others on the rungs above you. No it will be my turn for my stomach to
jump out as I go screaming through the change!

Think about being reincarnated many lifetimes and just how many families you helped to create that are here today? You wouldn't be leaving any of your family behind....not at all.

I'm saved, I'm good :o)

I was very ill about seven years ago. Must sicker that I realized at the time. After four days in the hospital and the doctors still didn't know how to treat me. I had this waking dream, a vision. I was walking down this road. I had a choice, to continue down the road and die. Or to turn around and live. I was also shown this dark kingdom. I chose to turn around and live.

It wasn't two hours after that, the doctor came in and told me they identified that I had legionaires disease and gave me the proper antibiotics.

I do not fear death because of what I have been shown and as a vampire I know my soul is immortal and will live again. This life has not been easy being a dark soul. Yet I am in no hurry to leave it. I enjoy beating death, though it will win eventually.

I fully embrace the idea of nonexistence. I've made my peace.

Philosophically, to me, it is the only "purity", if any, that exists.


If there's something else after "lights out", fuck it. If there isn't, fuck it.

Someday, all of this will be gone regardless. It has both been concluded in science and in the very large majority of the oldest spiritual paths multiple millennia old.

Maybe we're the two quintillionth Universe to exist in a chain of begin, exist, destroy, and repeat.

Maybe we're the first.

It's none of my business either way. I've seen enough of existence to understand how the fundamentals work, and personally I'm just not as impressed as most others seem to be.

I accepted death along time ago. I know that I am not immortal and I will die. Death is a but a door way and we should not fear it. I also grew up in church and was told follow Jesus and you will go to heaven. Mess up and you go to hell if you die in your sins. However, I do not follow that way. My heritage covers Asatru and Celtic belief. Personally I believe that you need to live as honorably as possible and live life to the fullest. Fearing death is basically living in constant fear and that robs you of so much.Heaven, Valhalla, Elysium are all places of reward. We will see who is right in the end.

I used to fear Death when I was in the Church. Now I can go help at Church or not go. I sin but can sleep easy just
cause I want pleasure doesn't mean Ill fry for it!

Ive lost most of my family to death so Im not afraid!
I try to be nice to people I know or strangers. Sometimes
I try to encourage lustful, tattoo encouragement, rituals!
But all in fun!

If anything, church always made me look forward to death. I still cannot wait.

I await death and when the day comes I will embrace him like an old friend. I fear nor death nor pain.

Death is my friend I fear not him

I am not. Death is part of you. There is no pain in death, only happiness.

I do not fear dying. The things I fear are leaving my kids without a mom and will they be ok after I am gone.

Death is a longed for lover. She should not be feared but eagerly embraced. The end of the path is only the beginning of another. I have longed for her embrace for so long. My fear is living after all that I love are dead. That is a scary thought.

I was but with 8 immediate family members
Deceased why should I be afraid!

In fact I doubt by the time I get cremated,
I could be the last living member!

My name went from 1 male in my dads
Generation no brothers
To Brother and I but he is gone
He is survived by one son and I have 2!
3 chances to extend to next generation!
Unless I have another child?

Death is just a part of life just as life is a part of death no fears! And maybe the insurance money will help my wife!

I personally long for the relief it will bring.

In order to conquer my fear of death, I first had to get past my fears in life. I used the idea that fear is the main ingredient of documented propaganda and control techniques to motivate me. The powers that be use this emotion against us in droves to keep society in check and pivot your attention to advertising and material possession's we don't really need. When I accepted that, I was determined not to let it have the same power over me it once did.

Care a little less. Fearless, but not reckless is the key.

People don't give their individual ability to control their thoughts and emotions enough credit. I am sure that you love your family dearly, and if you believe everything works out in the end, it will. That simple.
Things are neither good or bad, it is our perception that makes it one or the other. Believe in death being good and the big sleep will be the least of your worries.

I work in med field, ...dying is soo faceted.. people repent, mostly 80% of people find god or doogooders before they die,..its like...u had your whole life why up to the last minute? alot of people are afraid to die and that natural,..or dying alone, hospice u hold a lot of hands when someone passes mostly bittersweet, others its relief and long time coming all in all its a new journey this I am certain of and in the end all the pain goes away, ever have someone talk to you after their heart stopped? or a overwhelming strange feeling from nowhere that everything is alright? better yet.....have you been visited by a deceased after they have passed? a smell...a dream? a conscious sound?

I tend to agree with Cinnamon in that many are trying to keep an appearance up of 'I am not afraid of anything; death I spit in your face' attitude. Fear of the unknown comes to mind here, we do not know when we will die, how we will die, what happens to us when we die. Recently a healthy friend of mine passed away in his sleep in his 40's. Went to bed and a blog clot hit his brain and died. That scares me. Know for my culture we believe death is a part of the circle of life that we journey on. I want to believe that and sometimes I do, again the unknown, I do not know for sure what happens to us. One time I was on a plane. It was my first time flying and I was sacred. As the plane lifted up I got in touch with just how powerless we are against death. I thought to myself well if the plane crashes now I am on it and there it not a thing I can do about it and chances real good I would die. I had this acceptance that washed over me and then I was able to enjoy the flight. I kind of look at death like that with life. I am powerless over death and I am not going to stop living because of it.

I agree that there is indeed a lot of "folk" here claiming a fearlessness of death and I would wager some would piss themselves when death actually comes. That is human nature for you but it would be sensible to not fear it. It is good to have a survival instinct to keep you going but when it is completely inevitable with no escape, one should just accept it, unfortunately so few do.

Fearing the inevitable is completely useless, sure you can try and survive...if it is possible, but for those funny times where death is 100% certain, why bother crying about it? I don't see humanity crying because they can't stop the sun and the moon going down, death is just another thing that cannot be stopped, only delayed at best, so they may as well have some dignity when facing their doom.


The fear of death has been fuelled by history, when such fear had been a tool of religious fanatics for thousands of years..i.e "do as we say or you will burn in hell" and so on.

What I so find humorous is that if these priests believe so sincerely that they will be going to a "much more" better place, then why do they beg so cravenly before they die? So while I do find it strange that something "intelligent" would fear something so natural, it never fails to amuse.

I don't fear death but I'm certainly not looking forward to it either. I especially hope I make it to see my five kids grow old enough to get thru life with out needing me. As far as what comes after I don't figure any of us will know till the time comes.

I don't fear death itself. Everything dies. Worrying about how it'll happen or the pain invovled is counter productive. A fear like that can cripple some people. My only fear concerning death is will I die alone? Not that I want people to be sad over me but is there anyone that truly would be? Would they forget about me within a month? What will my daughter remember most and will she think of me as a good mom or thank god the bitch is dead? Have I had any good effects on someone's life enough to the point where they'll always remember me fondly? Will I have anyone there to hold my hand and tell me they love me when I go? I have friends... or people that call themselves my friends anyway. The effort they put forth to see me or speak to me is laughable (read non existent). I try my best to be there for them but will they be there for me in the end? Most of me says no. And dying alone without someone to tell me everything is very frightening to me.
I don't think about it a lot. It comes and goes when family members pass. Getting older doesn't bother me. In my culture, getting older is something to look forward to. If you've lived a good life people come to you for advice and listen to stories of before they were born. Wrinkles and gray hair are badges of honor. Dying means you get to be reborn so you're never really dead. But who will miss you when you've moved to the next life? Who will be happy to follow and seek you out to keep the connection? I'm afraid of dying alone and living each new life the same way.

Not scared to die per se, I'd just rather go on my own terms at a time that I choose rather than be caught up in an accident or have an unexpected sudden death

Not in the slightest.
I've dreamed of snippets of my past life, and honestly can't wait to get out of this one and on to the next.

Reincarnation is just a word created for those that fear death, for the beauty of life is not how well you lived it but how bold you are in letting it go....i fear death now so on that day i'll welcome him like an old friend.

i'am not scared to die because death is death.... you're shell is dying but your soul lives.

I am terrified to die. Absolutely TERRIFIED.

Me being a witch I obviously believe in reincarnation. So either you pass away and go to the summer lands and choose to stay there or you choose to be reincarnated.

I'm not afraid to die because I know I'll be going to somewhere truly peaceful and beautiful or I might choose to come back, who knows.

It's nature to be afraid of the unknown.

Nope. Not even a little. I've actually had dreams of my past life, and personally, I believe that I have more of them to live.
I'm actually curious as to what will be next.

Life is absurd.
So a box truck ran me off the highway today. I type therefore I survive.

Suffice it to say, when looking straight at concrete doing around 60mph after just getting hit by a truck that is a lot bigger, in the moment can't exactly be sure how it's going to play out.

I asked myself, "So this is it?"
But I also did not panic. I was able to soak up those whole 2 seconds of bullet time I was given and regain control of the vehicle before hitting the wall. I caught a few pieces of glass in the arm and probably have a concussion from the original impact, but I didn't freak out.

Meanwhile the larger truck that caused the impact, which the officers confirmed shouldn't even be trying to merge into the far left lane, was rolled off the opposite side of the highway about 2 tenths back. I'm going to go out on a limb and guess his initial reaction to the impact was more of the "OMG HOLY SHIT" variety and he cut the wheel as hard as possible in the opposite direction. Thankfully the officers told me he appeared to only have a broken arm and some glass cuts but should be ok.

So I share this experience here because I prior to this incident, I said: Fearless but not Reckless.

"We just had a near-life experience, fellas." - Tyler Durden

I use fear death when I was young and I grew up Christian. I knew I wasn't perfect and feared the concept of hell. As I grew older I drew my own conclusion that God in the idea the mass perceives him cannot be real, at least to me. With that the fear of hell was erased but the disappointment of no heaven still lingers. I picture death as an eternal sleep with no dream. The best way to describe non existence. Although that idea is depressing, I can't manage to believe anything different even though I would want to. I'm afraid of the idea of immense pain on the way out of life, but if I were to die instantly and painlessly I wouldn't fear if I knew that was the case.

I'm never afraid to die.

It's not about appearance at all esp if you have your own proof that reincarnation does indeed exist, which makes our ancient spiritual cultures correct sharing it as factual teachings. I don't believe anyone would go through great hard work building massive statues and multitudes of walled hieroglyphs just to F with everybody's heads. Not just Egyptian culture ofc, but even on a scientific level, energy leaves the body when you die (which wasn't long ago that issue was tossed out there as being seen and the weight factor changing), and right now, coming from a younger standpoint, sure you might be afraid but when you're an older generation and have been around a while, you come to accept that this is part of life, and so they embrace the reality of it. Some go very peacefully when it's time. The afterlife isn't so secret ya know.

"Dying is similar to a guy replacing his wallet with a new one.

Nothing sucks more."

~ billy

i have never feared death but perhaps that has been my problem for far too long when that is all i have wished for is a means to a end in life and at last peace where i will be waiting perhaps some day though life will end

Interesting topic. Initially, the question was: who is scared to die?

I read through each response, and enjoyed them all. I mean this in a positive way:)

Now my thoughts. I have thought a lot of this topic in my life. My perceptions have changed based upon what was going on in my life at the time, and what I have learned. I believe this happens to us all. One person mentioned that when people are close to death, they "suddenly" find God, and "repent." If that gives them the peace they seek, then good for them. :)

I took several religion courses back in college, and loved it. Learning about the different religions does put a different perspective on my thoughts of God and the beyond. One question I have always had is, if there is one God, then why so many different religions?

Back in the days of old, the Catholic religion came into play as a means of gaining power over people. Now, I am not trying to offend anyone with my post - just stating what I learned. It makes sense to me, because how else would a mass of people be controlled? Nothing is more powerful than working on a person's mind.

Some are more susceptible than others. For example, if a person is told enough "you will go to hell if you are not good!" then he/she will believe that. I believe that is what prompts fear in dying within us.

Death and dying is a personal perception, and based upon our own beliefs and faiths. I have always wondered why people feel they have to go to church every week to be on "God's good side," when Jesus preached anywhere he was. It didn't matter to him, just as long as he spoke to others.

Churches were made as a means of bringing like-minded people together, so they can feel loved and wanted and needed. If that helps them, then that is wonderful. I have tried many times to go to church and learn, but decided I was better off on my own. That is my choice.

I have thought about reincarnation as others here have mentioned. I still have the belief that we are put on this earth to learn, and once we have learned what we set out to learn, we move on to a higher plane of existence. That is a nice thought, because it is so sad to think we are here one time, we live, we die. What is the purpose in that?

In closing, if we fear death then perhaps finding peace in a spiritual sense, factual sense, emotional sense, whatever works, will help us to accept the inevitable. :)

MistressAngelique, Nice Reply and I appreciate you reading all the responses in entire conversation.

"There is no god but God."- Lilith

I envy those who ain't afraid to die, I do wanna die. I'm confused in who I'll spend my forever with

Most animals that are self aware and know of death would likely fear it, I don't fear dying as I lack anything to lose lol
But more than that I just don't think of death as a bad thing, it happens to all the living sooner or later, so why worry over things that cannot be controlled.

Fear of death. -chuckles- one of my biggest. But being who I am i dont believe that the world is gonna keep going. Maybe reincarnation with some of the dreams I had. I just don't want everything to go black ya know? I can't see how it just ends. No more family or loved ones. No more friends.

In these last 3 years I've had many of my friends die so I am well aware how easy it can be. Last month one of my good friends died from overdose. Slowly each and every day I was killing myself with my allergies and didn't even know it. Death scares me and I fear it for anyone I know because I don't want to see them go.

Death is inevitable, even this world will die eventually. Life has a beginning and an end. Why fear it?

it sounds all like greed to me. Humans just want more and more, not satisfied with what they were given and if their current life was wasted, then that is on them, don't cry at the clouds I say because there is nothing up that is listening.

Fearing death might be odd but fearing the cause of death can be completely understandible since not all farewells is going to be quick and painless.

Fear as well comes from the unknown, death is certain but what comes after is unknowable.

im not entirely scared of death perhaps maybe just a little bit
but thats about it

You shouldnt fear the inevitable. Everybody dies at one point or another. So why fear death?

"Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive."
-Elbert Hubbard

It is a pity those that have actual death experience, cannot recall what happened after the fact.

i aint scared of death because i know it is coming someday and im gonna go one day so i dont worry about death.

I like how this poem puts it. I'm not afraid.

Death, be not proud
By John Donne
"Death, be not proud, though some have called thee
Mighty and dreadful, for thou art not so;
For those whom thou think'st thou dost overthrow
Die not, poor Death, nor yet canst thou kill me.
From rest and sleep, which but thy pictures be,
Much pleasure; then from thee much more must flow,
And soonest our best men with thee do go,
Rest of their bones, and soul's delivery.
Thou art slave to fate, chance, kings, and desperate men,
And dost with poison, war, and sickness dwell,
And poppy or charms can make us sleep as well
And better than thy stroke; why swell'st thou then?
One short sleep past, we wake eternally
And death shall be no more; Death, thou shalt die."

We all die a little everyday, so I am not afraid of dying.

...Just remember, Death is not the end, but the beginning of life. religion got nothing to do, with the after life. If, every religious person die today, The so called Hell, will be over populated. What is on your mind, Your Heart and Your soul, will define, the after life, that you will be rewarded.

Hell must be overpopulated as well haha.
Yeah, you are basically dying as soon as you are born, your personal hourglass is turned over, and the clock is ticking down. It seems to be a human's nature to try to swim upstream and against the current but they only wear themselves out faster.

Whatchu kno'bout dat 2pac back tho:

Not at all as long as dying is not painful but I don't fear
death at all since, all Grand Parents, both Parents and Brother and sister gone. I'm 56 and the average age of
lives in my family is 51.75 when you kick the bucket.
I plan to say "Let us cross over the river and rest under the shade of the trees and strie the tent" then actually kick a bucket in the end if possible!

I want my funeral song to be "Strutter" by Kiss (a song about a hooker" to be played just to create a smile on survivors face!

the fear of death is usually just a fear of the unknown you are going into. the sense of uncertainty you are beholden to as you stand on the threshold of the void, looking into the other side. to be stripped bare and placed before the creator is equally intimidating a thought. i dont personally fear death, but the experience in which i will encounter it i suppose might frighten me

There is no point worrying over things you cannot control. It is a waste of time and energy. I can understand such fear but its pointless outside of an actual life and death situation.

Well the older I get 56 now the more I just don't care anymore! My whole family is already gone so be it!

Not afraid to die because I believe it's possible the afterlife will be quite amazing :)

I honestly thought I'd already be dead by now. So it's this life thing that I just can't seem to get my head around.

Be happy you are not, most take life for granted and waste so much time worrying that they don't get to enjoy it.

I do not fear death or dying at all. I am ready an embrace it for its apart of life.

Call me pathetic but I am afraid. Its just I don't want it to end. I may bitch in my journals but I do love my life. I dont want that to go away. Knowing my luck I would die with unfinished business and get stuck on this realm. I've been having alot of dreams of my death and that always worries me.

Then instead of worrying I would suggesting living life to the fullest, within reason of course. Stress itself can affect your health, it impairs memory, weakens the immune system and some say premature age you.

For what it's worth, I had a very vivid reoccurring death dream prior to ever lucid dreaming, a very vivid and specific dying dream after having lucid dreamed, and a whole series of detailed after life experiences while deep in lucid exploration.

And I'm still here.

As long as you wake up, you're good.

Every day is a gift.

I tend to be afraid of it. but i know once im dead i dont care.

I've gotten used to the fact that one day I will die. After all death comes in my job description as a possibility.

I have accepted fate.....there is no point of worrying about it

I think it makes no sense to be scared of death, you can't stop it. It's going to happen one way or another, so why spend your whole life fearing the inevitable. Why pass up living your life because you fear something you have no control over? Seems rather ridiculous to me.

There is no point to fear an outcome that can't be changed

Death specifically, no.

What happens to the people around me when I'm no longer there to look out for them...well, that's a little bit jarring. I think I'm honestly more concerned with whether the payouts will cover my debt load so no one else has to pay for me to drop dead. Not that I'll really be concerned with all that after I'm dead, but I mean...presently, the real question isn't whether I'm afraid of death as much as the question is "am I prepared for it".

not at all to be honest

I am not afraid if dying, I am sure scared about how it will happen. Death is a new beginning and it starts with in another stage of our life.

Death has never bothered me. Even as a child, I had no fear of it. People in my life would die and I would not care. I thought those around me crying over the dead were horribly selfish people who only thought about how the loss of their "loved ones" would affect their lives.

When I was about 1 or 2 my father died. At his grave I noticed everyone was crying. My first thought was that if they are crying and I am not that they will think there is something wrong with me or that I do not understand what has happened so I made myself cry so as to be left alone.

Through the years my apathy and fascination with death has increased. Through my studies of death and the afterlife I have only found reassurances that I should continue as I always have in regards to death.

I have found that when I explain that science tells us that nothing ceases to exist but merely changes form that this usually brings no comfort to the individual who fears death. Then I realized that it is not death that actually frightens people but the loss of self/identity. It is a fear of uncontrollable change upon the self that keeps people afraid of death and afraid of evolution.

For those who need comfort or reassurance of self after death, know that there are numerous documentations out there of near death experiences and EVP that have continuously given consistent data on the afterlife experience. Based on this documentations one can be confident that the self will remain intact and that even if you are required to have a "hell" experience that in the end after your "soul" has learned its lesson that you will eventually reach a place you can be happy in. Pain and Hell have a purpose to serve but they are not forever. Be assured your "self" is safe and will continue. Death is merely a transition from one form of existence to another.

i'm not afraid to die, as John Lennon said: "I'm not afraid of dying. I'm prepared for death because I don't believe in it. I think it's just getting out of one car and getting into another"

humans fear to the process of dying, to don't know exactly what will happens, and what wait in the other side