Moving on.. It's that time of year again when exams must be sat again. This year I have two in March, and one in April. Time to swot again... Getting tired of it though, but it's complusory for me to do so much.
Decency. For very little effort it doesn't take a lot to be decent to people. The majority of us all are decent and honourable to our family and friends, but I am wondering has a complete stranger ever been decent to you in any way, or have you ever acted decently towards a complete stranger? Let me tell you about a memorable evening I had...
My car had broken down at night on a highway last year during the snow and freezing weather, and when the battery power was diminishing I had to wait on the side of road for help as it was much to dangerous to sit inside being that the hazard warning lights were no longer operating. I was jumping up and down to keep warm.
During what seemed an eternity before help arrived, a gentleman and his wee son stopped by the roadside to offer their assistance. They could see I was freezing cold despite my winter attire, so what did the gentleman do when I told him help would be there soon? Well, he took of his gloves and insisted that I took them to keep me warm. *smiles* I was so impressed, so I thanked him and his wee son before they left.
Impressed being the key word here.. that man showed his honour, his dignity, his respect and just how decent he was to a complete stranger so much that to this day I keep thinking back to just how kind he was.
I regret not getting his name.. as I would of sent a card in way of thanking him and keeping in touch. That sort of person is in the same caliber of all people known to me that I call real friends.
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That sort of person would be worth knowing. :)
I know there are many people out there who would do such things, but there aren't many of them here in this country. I have met a woman who gave me a ride home during the middle of winter when i got lost before. She was really nice, I didn't get her name, but she was a collage student. Having some one be so kind to you, and you wonder "where are these people for those who need the most help in there world?"
If that happened to me i would probably start crying and thanking them for their kindness.
You know that your close friends and loved ones will come to your aid when it is needed. To me, the kindness of strangers is special, because they don't know you at all, but are unexpectedly helpful
anyway...just because.
Damn... this ACTUALLY happened... and not a made-up story??????
:O
Yup.. It sure did. Before he stopped there was another three passing drivers who pulled in too to offer their help. We have a lovely community here in Ireland. Even strangers welcome you or say hello in the street. They also have a habit of waving to you when you drive down country roads!
It's a shame that these simple acts are considered in this way and are not the norm.
I left Mum to the airport yesterday to go stay with my brother in Spain for a while. The weather here is really too cold for her, and it is so worth it to keep her warm especially since she suffers from osteoporosis. Bless her wee heart :)
It's one of those never ending rainy days in Ireland, so nothing for it but to put a few turfs on and light the range settling down with hubby for the night. Maybe crack open a bottle of wine along with the chicken bang-bang that I am making for dinner tonight...
Watching, "independence day" out of the side of my eyes whilst writing this entry.. I love that movie and have watched it so many times I almost know the script! Hard to believe it was made in 1996, which is 15 years PLUS years ago. "ooops"
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Great film, can't believe it was so long ago!
Best part of that movie was Will Smith dragging the alien around in the desert and talking to it, when he turns around kicks it and says "And what the hell is that funky smell?"
My husbands brother died today. Right now, I feel so numb.. so much death this month. So much pain for those I love. Just being here for all is the best I can do.. but I am not sure if that is enough...
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That is all you can do. Death is never easy and there are never the right words or deeds to change the mourning one must go through.
May light perpetual shine upon him.
*hugs*
I'm so sorry Emmy, I'm here if you wanna talk you know that. I am sure your hubby knows you are there for him. ♥
I'm sorry Em, My heart goes out to you and will keep you in my thoughts and "prayers" .
-hugs- im so sorry to read this. Death is one of the hardest things to deal with, I am sure every one can agree with me on this. I hope you guys all the best, I pray to the goddesses he is received with happy and open arms, and i give you my condolences.
Wish you and yours 'long life'
Thankyou :)
you know i love ya. :sits next to you:
L'chaim, Emmy. Cherish the living and help your hubby to do the same. :hug:
I was free this afternoon to do a hour workout down at the gym being that my hospital appointments are actually tomorrow instead of today. Steve, as usual left me breathless, but thank jeebers he is there to push me to my limits! I really messed up my appointments, now I have to jiggle client appointments tomorrow to be where I have to go :(
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I don't know how you fit it all in ...you are one busy lady.
It will suss itself out. :)
O.o your a busy body! Wish i had that much stuff to fill my day
Tomorrow will be a difficult day for me.. It's not often that I feel fear as it normally eludes me however; the events tomorrow concern me. Few know why, but it feels good to know I have friends here who do care. You know who you are, and thankyou for your recent support and just being there at a time you were needed the most Xx
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I may not know what is going on, or why something is making you feel concerned, but from what i do know about you and how you act and seem like you are, I'm pretty sure you will make it through without a hitch ^^
I have no clue either, but I hope that all goes well for you!
Hope it all goes well. x
Thanks guys.. I got my days mixed up, it is all happening tomorrow!
I would love a Blackberry with key depress and a Samsung S2 screen. Anyone know of such a hybrid? Heh.. I keep getting texting on my mobile so horribly wrong, that you need to decipher it like a code lmao!
I got a Swedish massage this morning by an Irish wimman! It felt like a feather had tickled my back. What a waste of money and time it really was so disappointing.
The camera was hot though, and I got some brilliant shots which I will upload here if I get time. I am away to London, UK tomorrow on business overnight although I wish I didn't have to go as I hate the landing back into Belfast again particularly in winter.
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Swedish massage by an Irish woman.... oxy moron much?
O.o
Heh, I like a firm touch myself ;)
Hubby really is a eejit! He pretended to have mild tourettes in the dining room at breakfast this morning, and at first I was embarrassed when everyone stared but after a while I couldn't keep from giggling and had to leave. Now we are going back down to hotel dining room for dinner shortly so, I am thinking this is going to be interesting....
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Classic :)
I could not think up a better way to entertain myself among strangers. Or hell family.
O.o i would have laughed out loud.
That's freaking awesome hehe
So, if I dress like a Goth..that makes me a Goth? Or if I dress like a yuppie, that makes me a yuppie? Or if I dress like the Preacher ..that makes me a preacher man?
I don't think so. I find it odd how some attach labels unto people. Maybe it is because they don't fit into a certain cliche they perceive and want to be part of. Maybe this is the reason.
I know for ninety-five percent of the time I don't dress Goth. It wouldn't fit with my business image, family or work if I did and living in a rather small rural community in Ireland, I just don't want to attract attention to myself.
We all are, who we are..on the inside. It is our hearts and minds that count and score us brownie points on the path of life, not our clothes. Life is what tailors and colours our minds and actions. I am happy that I am who I am, how things shaped up for me, and I am at peace with that, and my life.
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I'd have to agree!
I don't dress like anything specific, and I am not a Goth :) I'm not any 'category'. If I were to assign one to myself, I'd be abandoning something else that I am. I like too may different things- and my liking vampire lore and mythology has never had anything to do with 'Goth' anyway. Goth might be beautiful, as Cancer says... but so are many things in life- states of mind, lifestyles, on and on.
So true.
I use to dress like a 'Goth' most of the time years ago...now, I usually look kinda' like a bum.
I'm pretty sure that I'm not a bum...not yet anyway.
I am naked. Does that make me a baby? :P
My favorite topic of years ago on this forum. Never have enough of it.
This week, so far as been by far the most difficult of times. I am playing hooky off work, ducking clients when I can and helping my friend and her family as much as I can. Sometimes it is all about just being there.
Continually, I put those I care for in front of my own needs as their need is greater...it doesn't always work out well though as it makes rods for my own back. However, I take each blow and setback knowing I have done good for the ones I love the most. That is just who I am, and what I am about. My family, and true friends appreciate that.
Spa would be good though, oh so good.
The smell of incense created a poignant moment as if all time had stood still. That candid snap of the children bent double with pain and clutching on to their mother as they walked up the aisle, will stay in my mind forever.
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:hug:
It's so hard when kids are involved, but never to be forgotten.
When a child is at their own fathers funeral, its harder on them than most others.
I know those feelings too well. Funerals as a child were too common for me.
The children's father read his Bible every day, and lit the Holy candle when he did. His book marker was on the last page of the Bible, and the candle was fully burned when he died with a massive heart attack. His funeral is tomorrow, and we will be there.
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You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers *hugs*
I'm so sorry for your family's loss doesn't even begin to cover it. I'll definitely be keeping you guys in my thoughts and prayers. It's always hard losing a parent, a friend or a loved one, especially when children are involved. *hugs*
i wish you strength.
I don't know you, but i'm so very sorry.
My condolences for this loss. I will pray to my goddesses that he receives the greatest welcome into the goddess of love and happiness garden.
Thankyou all very much x
The children were naturally so sad to lose their Father, that it near broke my heart today when I went around to see them. Little Conal is only 10, and we practiced putting together a speech for him to read in Church about his Dad. Again, heart-wrenching..watching him poised like his Father dressed in his shirt, and wearing his shoes which were much too big. Funeral is on Sunday.
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That's a tough one. You're doing good.
I can only imagine what you and your family are going through *hugs*.
I'm so sorry to hear that this happened.
Thankyou all very much
I was dissapointed in the Iron Lady movie. my reason for this is because they told the story from her dementia viewpoint which I thought was a bit naff.
There is more honour in being a "whiny bitch" than a sneaky dog!
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Everyone knows that y ou are neither whiny or sneaky.And who the people are here who do this kindof thing...
yup... Oceanne is completely right.
:)
hehehehe!
There's one good thing about that comment: it's not very many characters. Look at comments in my Honor log :P And this isn't the first time. They did it to Cancer's log also- and should well know he can see who's leaving it.
I never bothered with a Coven, or Mentorship.. But I do have a Sci-Fi group, and I will shortly get around to honouring some members who have made a valid contribution towards the group.
Someone I knew died today. He used to be a friend with my husband and myself and went out on several social occassions. However, he double crossed us in a business deal and hammered his wife to the point of near death. Being stinking rich and a multi millionaire his monkey money bought his release which is a different more private story.
Now, I find myself confused. How could I feel sadness for a man so evil? I am in shock. He was so young, and no one expected this. My brain says to go gloat over his body in the coffin at the wake..and my heart is heavy with sadness. Conflict like this is hard to for me to manage.
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Personally I think it's natural to feel sadness when someone has died, especially at a young age despite what they may have done...as long as it wasn't something too horrible but I don't know the entire story, and can only offer up advice that most likely means nothing. I hope you are able to sort things out soon.
I too think it is natural for you to feel the way you do, both sides of it. It's a sad thing, death. At the same time it is difficult to mourn someone who wasn't such a good individual in life and nothing says you have to. It is obvious that you respect the fact that someone has lost their life, you don't have to respect the individual. *Hugs*.
All deaths are sad. Most endings are sad. Maybe there was a day when you didn't feel any animosity to that person. There was a 'like' there at one time. There was something in that person that was worthy. It's too bad be made some messed up choice in his life, but it is a sad thing that his memory is a sore one. There is definite sadness in that legacy.
Thankyou all for your thoughts :)
Im really sorry for your loss.I dont like to see you sad.Sure hope you begin to feel a little better soon.
Your heart is heavy with sadness because you are a kind caring soul and you can't change that,
Your mind however see what your heart does not...
Thankyou all.. Yes, but I cared most of all for the beautiful children he left behind. Their souls are so honest and innocent it made me weep to see them so devastated.
I am sure there must be a word for someone who is friendly with you, but yet tries to hide it from others. I feel a long journal entry coming on.
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*Singing 'Men At Work'*... ♪ ♫Who Can It Be Now?♪ ♫
The word 'stalker' comes to mind .. lol
I don't know that tune Images, but Bloodlife, stalker doesn't really fit the description. Close though!
Thats a bit weird...
Not long to go now before we leave for the airport. I have my mobile with me so hopefully I may get in later tonight or early tomorrow. Thanks for the good wishes, hubby appreciates that x
Someone who can't be adult enough to say to their other friends and peers. " I'm an adult, and i'm allowed to have friends who don't like each other, and if they don't like it they don't have to be friends with me." Some people can't deal with peer pressure, others just are so non confrontational its sad.
I know the feeling...
I am enjoying myself on Vampire Rave tonight..the way it used to be. @smiles@ I had been lurking so long, that it made me so out of touch with some members! I was two years behind on one dear person, and one who I am honoured to call a friend. That's, the thing about true friendship you can pick up on the same vein you left off. Yes, I am very happy tonight that I found once again what I cherished so much about this site years ago :).
I wish I had Cancer's computer! chuckles You would be able to see into who are the anonymous people leaving honours in the negative. I could put it altogether, as it probably follows a pattern and involves a group of friends, but to be honest I haven't the time or indeed the will to do so.
We are leaving to go to England tomorrow as we had bad family news and yet another family member is dying :( We would rather see him alive then just over for the funeral when that happens.
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I think we all have "Haters" and like you I can put 2 + 2 together, but they really aren't worth our time. I know the kind of person you are, you've always been a good friend to me and deserve some Honor *hugs*.
Oh, I do hope you get to speak with the person before they start the next part of their walk.
Thanks Dee.. your thoughts are appreciated :) Maybe it was wrong of me to combine these two subjects.. but this morning I was too tired to start another journal entry :(
Pandy *smooch*
Good luck with the visit. I planned to go see my good friend and mentor just weeks ago, and was called a couple days later with the news she had passed. Best to go as soon as possible.
Thanks.. he is worse by the day. We will be at the hospice tonight.
In my humble opinion a roll of honour for members, could be more honourable... if anonymous negative points are to be applied, then the member doing that should be forced to leave a comment for their (dis)honour point to be valid. Makes sense? It's a haven for the backstabbers though the way it is!
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It will only give our dramatists somethig else to play with ;-)
chuckles yea.. I can't sustain the time it needs to keep up with all of this, so I got to let the honor thing go or it will suck in all of me!
It is good in the cases of people taking Honor from those that rally the gangs whenever they are rated low. This is their only shot to share how they really feel and not have their who society pay for it. People do that all the time, get angry then all all their buds to help them retaliate on ONE person or everyone in that's person's coven in hopes of making them cave.
I am sure your Honor points will always be high, so the others that come in to 'Take' will be so few it won't even matter.
whole* society pay for it...
Oh, I misunderstood the honour points heh. I thought it was five per person per day!! Now, I am itching to give more out.. But can't because I have none left for today!!
Unexpected dinner guest coming... They heard I got an xbox heh..so this should be fun. Wine is a chillin!
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I think people will find it difficult to get them from me because in order to do so they have to get my actual attention.
Gotta luv a games night ;-)
I bought an XBox360 Kinect today heh, I was impressed in the store boxing my virtual opponent in the ring that I quite forgot myself! I attracted a bit of a crowd.. but my goodness was I having fun, as well as the excerise. Well.. I will have another addiction now as well as this. Okay, well have to pop on to the roller coaster now..laters hehehehe Toodlypips!
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That sounds fun!
Anything to relieve stress ;-)
Haha, yea a great stress buster, but also a good exceriser! I have white water rafted today (3 times) and played volleyball 6 times! (never laughed so much) Man, I feel pooped though! and that on top of a one hour cardio workout with a trainer this morning!
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