Thought I Would Share...
21:37 Feb 28 2011
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We convince ourselves that life will be better after we are married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.
The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to ge gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, reassure every moment that you have. Treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time... and remember that time waits for no one. So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or the fifteenth, until your song comes on, until your ship comes in, until you've had a drink, until you've sobered up, until you die, until you are born again... to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy. Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
Some Tips on Leaving an Abusive Relationship20:39 Feb 24 2011
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Leaving an Abusive Relationship
The process of leaving an abusive relationship is difficult and dangerous. Safety is the primary concern. Even if you do not think your partner poses a risk, leaving often triggers an increase in violence. It is best to prepare as much as you can ahead of time.
Ask a friend or family member to keep items you gather to take with you. Make sure the person you choose will not tell your abuser about your plans to leave. Do not take anything that will be noticed as missing.
Things to Stash Away:
•Money
•Contact information for a local domestic violence shelter
•Prescribed medications
•Legal documents for you and your children (e.g. birth certificates, social security cards)
•Photographs or written evidence of the abuse
•Financial records and account numbers
•Personal belongings possessing sentimental value
•Clothing and personal needs
Things to Arrange:
•A plan that safely removes yourself and you children from the home
•Transportation for yourself, children and belongings
•A safe place to stay
•How to manage being gone from home for an extended time
•Referral to a lawyer or legal advocate to obtain a personal protection order, temporary child custody order, etc.
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