I think I'm the most mad that he made my baby cry. I'm super protective of her and absolutely can't stand when someone hurts her. It wasn't the crappy half assed message he sent me via IM for her birthday. It wasn't the lack of card, or present, or phone call (though she did notice these things).
It was the phone call that she did receive, and the narcissistic behavior that made her feel personally attacked. She's still a little girl. I don't understand how anyone can treat their own child with such blatant disregard. How quickly some people forget that they're supposed to be the adult, and supposed to behave like one. I've done okay raising this kid alone for the past 11 years. She's happy, and healthy, and a smart, creative kid. It's not like the 14¢ a day he's contributed to her upbringing to this point has gone very far. Starving kids in third world countries get more generous donations from strangers than this dude's willing to provide for his own own daughter. Lunch at her school is $2.50 a day. His contributions don't even cover a school meal, or even more pathetic not even a package of ramen. Not that I would ever let my baby starve.
Some day she's going to realize that he wants all of the credit of being a parent without any of the actual responsibility or effort. Someday I'm going to have to explain that there is no college fund because court ordered child support is just a suggestion to some people. Whenever we get to that point, I'll do the same thing I always do, take care of this kid. She's the most important thing in my life, and her happiness and success are all that matter to me.
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CuRsEdToDaRkNeSs
07:57 Feb 04 2023
I 100% understand this journal entry and have been in your shoes..... I am sorry your little had to endure such behavior on her birthday but I do wish her the happiest of birthdays and one day, she will see for herself who has been there for her and who hasn't. It sucks when a parent thinks they can be there when its convenient for them or just when they want to look good.... I will never understand how anyone can do that to their child.
DarkWonderlands
15:12 Feb 04 2023
I have been there and raised my daughter as a single parent as well. Her dad thought paying child support was responsible parenting. Sending birthday wishes to your little one, hope she has an amazing day.
TheArtistRose
13:30 Feb 05 2023
My biological father never paid child support and somehow got away with it. Probably left the country since he wasn't American.
I know what it's like to not have a decent father figure. You're doing amazingly well! Your little girl will realize one day, believe me.