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Question 1
03:18 Jul 13 2012
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(My Question) >>I have a question for you in your opinion of course when someone is trying to turn there life around and do something better with there lives. Then everyone they ever talk to ceases to talk to them and to not want to be around them anymore because of the change. Would you consider it worthwhile to still make the changes should they benefit the person making them whether it cost them those stated?
Answers of those who answered:
Deringerdan
With changes in life theres always choices we have to make. one can never have their so called cake and eat it to. If those changes are to better your life and the ones that cannot accept it then the way I see it they were never your friends in the first place..
MooniePie
I feel if the change is better for the person changing then it needs to be done. Self betterment is important. If the people around cease in their talking with the person, then perhaps they were never really friends to begin with.
Immortalxkiss
We only get one life to live, and I am all for changing yourself for the better. If people don't appreciate the fact that someone would want to better themselves, than the person doesn't need those people in their life. If someone is going to hinder another from being a better person, that individual is detrimental to the person's growth.
DragonReborn
Myself..and this is just from my own experience
if the changes you are trying to make are for you..and they are to make you feel better about yourself...than Yes..no matter how anyone else feels about it..by all means make the changes..cause if they can't accept the changes and still be friends and talk to you...than they wasn't worth your time to begin with
FeverDreams
If the people you mentioned are truly your friends ... they would be there for you no matter what. In fact they should be in full support of you changing for the better.
Change for yourself ... its your life ... dont let others dictate your future.
HAWK2K
That's not for me to decide.
Only you can make that decision.
DireConsequences
It depends on the choices they are making of course. As long as the said person isn't hurting someone or themselves, I, personally, wouldn't have much of a problem with it for sure.
If it was me and I was on a path for the betterment of myself, the people around me would have to make their own decision to stay in my life or leave. I would hope they would come around in the end when they see that I am better for the choices I've made... but if not, then honestly, it would be their lost more than mine.
kawaiisasuke
Change is good. If someone wants to change they should, regardless of what others say. If they wont stick around new people will step in and fill their places. Sometimes its even better that way, to get a fresh start.
VenusFire
I've experienced this when I divorced my ex husband. Every friend I thought I had abandoned me. I did not let that stop me from making my choice to leave him. If they were truly my friends, they would have helped me through that period in my life.
Same with you. If those people were honestly your friend, they would be your friend through the good and the bad. I would not let those people decide my future or tell me what is good or bad. Only you know that and in the end, what they thought isn't going to matter anyways.
LordFangor
Yes, I believe that if one is trying to change for the better, and their current circle of friends does not accept the attempt to change then I would say they were not truly friends to begin with.
I think that at one point in time or another almost everyone will try to better themselves in someway. whether it is called "getting religion", "going back to school" , "learning a trade" , it is all for the better.
miloshkeat
If they are your true friends they will back you up if not cut your losses and walk away.
I will truly hope that no one asks me to erase there entry because then it will detract from this entry and make it more meaningless. But those are some of the answer/s I received from people mostly older then with more life experience. This is why I asked them but more importantly it shows how diverse a opinion may be or how tightly roped together we truly are in thought.
My appreciation for those who answered shows no bounds and I thank them for there time.
Darkness17:55 Jul 07 2012
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Why is it people generate negativity and feel so happy when they are negative towards others?
I mean I can understand constructive positive criticism but just being negative what pushes it?
Why do people feel it will get them further?
Tis funny
04:14 Jul 07 2012
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It's funny to me how every time someone acts different or does what people would consider wrong all of sudden the light is put on them. Everybody looks at them differently just by a few devilish words that come from snakes just because those select people are scared, nervous, angry or whatever the feeling may be. But the point is that person upsets the balance and says the words that need said because everyone else is to afraid to say them.
I have longed wondered where my life would/will lead me thinking and pondering this one riddle that beats the rest down. I finally have come to the theory that my job is to be honest and to say what needs to be said even when I am hated, blocked, looked at, frowned upon or whatever the feelings of said person may be. Those people will always keep a close eye so they can find one reason to get rid of that person who stands up and shows different because they are afraid of the havoc that could cause.
They feel so safe with there title or power that it scares them at the thought of losing it more then anything ever could. That power they have is what they cherish most until people like me come and show them how futile there attempts are. I have absolute respect for anyone who crosses my path and believe them to be good and honest but most importantly have honor till they prove that those three are to hard to maintain.
This is all so one reason why Daire intrigues me because he alone so far has be resolute to speak his opinion just wish I could talk to him more. Maybe I could learn some new tricks or talents that have yet not revealed themselves to me. I know he will be watching and reading this then deciding how to take it but we will cross that bridge when it comes.
I feel that I'm surrounded physically of course by inept people but that's a whole other story. So I bid thee farewell from this entry.
MrDeeds signing off.
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