Why every woman I'm ever with is destined to have an emotional or physical affair or just leave IF they lack Anger Management Skills and Good Self-Esteem.
No relationship is perfect. There will come a time when the two of you will come to disagree on something. My relationships are no different. When reaching a disagreement, I either request that we compromise or just agree to disagree, however, if a final decision must be made about something, I reserve the right to make the final decision in my belief and with their agreement that I'm the head of the household. My decision is always based on what's best for the relationship and not either of us individually.
However, sometimes a woman can allow her emotions to get the best of her (as some men can as well) and become Angry, Resentful, and Bitter which will result in developing the desire to retaliate for a perceived wrong done to them. When this happens, they go down their list of what 'Actions To Take' to make me share in the pain they feel. This is often encouraged by their female friends and family relatives in which 99% of the time are single.
Their 'Actions To Take' list goes something like the following:
1. They attempt to argue.
This does not work well with me. I see it as drama. There is no need to increase her tone, just improve her point of view. I have zero tolerance for drama.
2. They attempt the silent treatment.
This does not work with me. I'm a quiet guy by nature so I welcome the quietness. I see it as peaceful.
3. They attempt to stop sharing in domestic activities.
This does not work with me. If she does not cook, clean, do laundry etc., well I can do all of that and in most areas, I'm quite better at it.
4. Withhold Sex.
Ok, now she is getting desperate. Nothing else has worked for her. She still can't have her way. The one difference between an intimate partnership and other relationships is the intimate part. Withholding sex is the beginning of irreparably damaging an intimate relationship. Also, this too does not work with me because I can satisfy myself and sometimes I'm better at achieving it than with her.
5. Turn To Another Guy.
When all else have failed and nothing has seemed to hurt me to the degree they had wished, they all play this last card thinking it will for sure work. Well it does achieve hurting me, but it also results in being given a one way ticket out of my life. This action is a deal breaker. They all know this up front in the beginning of a relationship with me. No apology necessary nor entertained. I help her pack and send her on her way while holding the door for her. Game over!
So, at 198 lbs can I really lose 3 lbs in three days to achieve my goal of 195 lbs by the end of the month? I'm going to give it my best shot. Just think, so far my journey started at 228 lbs back in Nov 2012. I've lost 30 lbs in 3 months. ^_^
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Who would brag about that...? Wait, I guess it's him.
^_^
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haha
2 minutes and 30 secondes , after? lol if I eat or drink something bad it comes out within the next 30 secondes it has come in lol
then again except for cognac or wine, I would not try anything that's been sitting there for 20 years lol
So a young woman in her early 30's had been focusing on finding a nice guy. She had chosen over the years to ensure she stayed on birth control so she could pursue her dream of being a successful woman who was also a wife and mother someday.
She married a really nice guy, but then decided to pursue her educational goals since he made more money than she did. For some reason that bothered her. So after earning her BA and finding a new job that paid more money, she got off birth control and began to try to conceive with her husband, however, it wasn't happening for her. Fearing that the reason may be due to her husband since she was told by her doctor that her eggs were fine, although he had a child from a previous marriage, she decided to divorce him and marry another man while she was still young. Her husband was devastated, however, she found it easy since the marriage was in somewhat of a rut. You see, her husband and she both worked full time jobs, but then the time that would have been spent with him had become occupied with classes, homework, group projects and other educational demands. Her husband had promise to support her goals in life and not complain since it would benefit them both in the long run. Although he found himself very lonely in his marriage, he never once cheated and he anxiously awaited for her to graduate.
However, after gaining her BA, she realized that she really wasn't in love with her husband at all. She divorced her husband and married who she felt was her best friend from her early years. She had been secretly staying in contact with this friend for years. It was only a plus that this man had never been married and had no kids. This was a fact that she always hated about her husband, but married him anyway since he was the best guy that had come along in sometime when they met.
After marrying this new guy, it was later discovered that her past sexual history and medical problems due to being with the wrong guys before she met her 1st husband had resulted in her not being able to conceive.
She also discovered that her best friend and now husband was a closet homosexual.
So now at age 40 all she could think of is one word...KARMA!
♪ I can see it in your eyes, you're angry
Regret got sh*t on what you're feeling now
Mad cause he ain't like me
Oh you mad cause nobody ever did it like me
All the care I would take, all the love that we made
Now you're trying to find somebody to replace what I gave to you
It's a shame you didn't keep it
#1, 2, 3 & 4
I know that you gon' read this, I'm the man
Yeah I said it, I'm the man
Don't you forget it ♪
I left the pool water running again.... FML!
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"Mah name eees Mah-geey"...duh. LOL!
Is your backyard flooded?
No. It goes out to the street curb and then a drain. I wish it wold flood the yard...it would save having to water grass in this semi-desert environment. LOL!
I spend so much time
Believing all the lies
To keep the dream alive
Now it makes me sad
It makes me mad at truth
For loving what was you
If you don't love yourself, but still want to be in a relationship with someone. Please WARN everyone so that they can be prepared for what is to come.
It won't take long for others to began to see you the way you see yourself.
Re-post from FB.
Hey you!
Yes, you. Stop being unhappy with yourself. You are perfect. Stop wishing you looked like someone else or wishing people liked you as much as they like someone else. Stop trying to get attention from those who hurt you. Stop hating your body, your face, your personality, your quirks. Love them. Without those things you wouldn't be you and why would you want to be anyone else? Be confident with who you are. Smile. It will draw people in. If anyone hates on you because you are happy with yourself then you stick your middle finger in the air and say screw it, my happiness will not depend on others anymore. I'm happy because I love who I am. I love my flaws. I love my imperfections. They make me me. And 'me' is pretty amazing.
So while in Iraq some years ago, I remember asking my now Ex doesn't she have passion for anything? She had no hobbies. Nothing seem to bring her sustained happiness. She just always seemed to be battling depression. I mean she didn't even seem to have passion for me. She asked what did I mean she didn't have passion for me? I said for example, if you had passion for me you would flirt with me, invade my personal space, hold my hands, hug me often, kiss me often, caress me, and be the one to initiate sex from time to time. She did none of these acts. She stated she's never had that level of passion for anyone. In fact, it dawned on me that the sex we had prior to marriage was always initiated by me and I over looked that red flag because of how society teaches that some girls are just shy that way.
Lowndes, L and Giddens, A. wrote that 'Emotional' intimacy, particularly in sexual relationships, typically develops after physical bonds have been established. That the emotional connection of "falling in love", however, has both a biochemical dimension, driven through reactions in the body stimulated by "sexual attraction" and a social dimension driven by "talk" that follows from regular physical closeness or sexual union.
I tend to believe that one becomes 'Emotional Intimate' prior to vice after 'Physical intimacy'.
I feel a so called intimate relationship without the presence of passion is destined to fail.
Hatfield, E., & Rapson, R.L. wrote Love is an important factor in physical and emotional intimate relationships. Love is qualitatively and quantitatively different to Liking, and the difference is not merely in the presence or absence of sexual attraction. There are two types of love in a relationship; passionate love and companionate love. Companionate love involves diminished potent feelings of attachment, an authentic and enduring bond, a sense of mutual commitment, the profound feeling of mutual caring, feeling proud of a mate's accomplishment, and the satisfaction that comes from sharing goals and perspective. (Companionate love refers to the feelings of intimacy and affection we feel for another person when we care deeply for the person, but do not necessarily experience passion or arousal in his or her presence. Companionate love, as in the love between two best friends, grows out of a mutual enjoyment in companionship and the intimacy of a close friendship. This love develops slowly and a significant amount of comfort develops between the partners). In contrast, passionate love is marked by infatuation, intense preoccupation with the partner, throes of ecstasy, and feelings of exhilaration that come from being reunited with the partner.
Two people who are in an intimate relationship with one another are often called a couple, especially if the members of that couple have placed some degree of permanency to their relationship. These couples often provide the emotional security that is necessary for them to accomplish other tasks, particularly forms of labor or work.
I feel that for an intimate relationship to endure, there must be both 'Physical' and 'Emotional/Companionate' love displayed by 'BOTH' partners towards the other.
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Lol...never saw it. But I do feel like a taco now. :)
^_^
I remember taco bell in Phoenix, in the early 70s.Im guessing around 72.
Taco Viva was 'before' Taco Bell
Well I finally got around to ordering a Scorekeeper Trigger Spring for the air hockey table. Sometimes the puck can get stuck in the puck housing that houses which makes the scoring mechanism work when the puck goes into it. So the puck housing must be removed to retrieve the puck, however, if one is not careful, the trigger spring can fall out. Well while in Japan this must have happened and my Ex allowed someone to remove the puck housing to get the stuck puck and when the trigger spring fell out, instead of replacing it, it was thrown away. Some people seem to care less about treating things that belongs to others as if it was their own when they don't value it as much as the owner.
10 Words To Stop Misspelling
http://theoatmeal.com/comics/misspelling
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thank you teacher mogy for that fine english lesson this morning,
hahaha...I figured since others were doing it, I might as well hop on the band wagon. ^_^
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I want to clap til my hands bleed lol
LOL!!!
Ok it's after 10 am...I suppose I should drag myself out of bed now. I think I'm going to go buy something.
I remember the many Sunday Nights with my mind being on what my Monday Morning will bring. What issues, challenges, concerns, problems, etc etc will I encounter. I remember thinking how my Monday Morning will set the tone for the rest of my work week.
However now on Sunday Nights my mind is simply on how AWESOME my Monday Mornings feel. ^_^
Tonight will be a Lobster Tail, Steak, Crab Legs, Garlic Bread & Corn on the Cob dinner night while watching the movie Vampire Wars 'Battle For The Universe'.
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I want to come to dinner at your house. Lobster and crab, yummy!
You bring women, I'll leave the light on. ^_^
Urban Dictionary: smash
1. The action/process of fucking someone good.
1a. Hittin' it.
1b. Tappin that ass.
www.urbandictionary.com
LOL!
Couple Addicted to Coffee Enemas, Up to Four Times a Day? WTF?
http://abcnews.go.com/Health/video/florida-couple-stop-coffee-enemas-18432934
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Their colons will be fucked up from that much stimulation.
That's what she said....LOL!
uuuuh ill just keep drinking mine the old fashioned way.
Accused Witch Burned Alive in Papua New Guinea?
http://abcnews.go.com/International/wireStory/alleged-witch-burned-alive-papua-guinea-18434480
People are funny on this site. Sure you can make other profiles and pretend to be someone else, but the more you post, the more someone can recognize the same pattern of writing. They use the same type of words, same phrases, or even misspell the same words whenever they post under their other profiles.
However, it is funny to watch them pretend. I LOVE It! Too Funny!!! LMAO!!!
I love reading VR Journals...I'm going to have to go buy more popcorn though. ^_^
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throws a bag of popcorn to you
Thanks! ^_^
If I haven't said it before, allow me to say it now
I ♥♥ My Life!!! ^_^
I'm taking pain medication for my lower back that has a side effect of producing vertigo lack symptoms.....and I LIKE it! ^_^
I love laying my head in a woman's lap
Face down
Mouth opened
Tongue out
It doesn't matter where I am, all it takes is one female to enter the room and my day just got a little bit brighter. Women are AWESOME!
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You are sooooo bad!
Feels so good being bad
There's no way I'm turning back
I may be bad, but I'm perfectly good at it
Sex in the air, I don't care, I love the smell of it
^_^
now that is some serious focus right there.. cuz that looks really uncomfortable!
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It's just more lies...just like make-up.
Good advertising and marketing strategy though. Females know their audience. They know what turns us on and they play to that very well while at the same time arguing that they're doing it for themselves not for guy's attention. Get The F*ck Out With That....LMAO!!!
But this woman is awesome, it is just for the laughs. And yes women like attention but so do men. I dont think anyone would take care of themselves a lot if they were alone in the world.
Men Raped By Women (Article credited at the end)
The headline jumped out at me from CNN.com, and I clicked through fast: “3 Women in Zimbabwe Charged in Series of Sex Attacks on Men.”
My impulse to click was exactly the reaction CNN’s web team had targeted. But I read the article for a reason other than sexual curiosity. It was more a medical question: Can a woman really rape a man? What if he ejaculates? Is this rape?
The news story was this: Three women in their 20s were charged with raping 17 men in Zimbabwe and keeping their sperm in condoms for some sort of health-related ritual. (That logic is reason enough for the world to step up efforts to educate girls.) The young women apparently used drugs and raped the men at gunpoint. In regard to men raped by women, this is where the medical question popped into my head.
Can Men Come In A Stressful Situation?
We all know that a woman can certainly be raped while drugged and full of terror, but a man, well, a man has to sort of function to complete the task. But can he function on drugs or at gunpoint? I know men who can’t even pee if someone is watching.
Not convinced that a Google search would yield my answer, I decided to go to a real authority: my predominantly male Facebook page. There is a nice cross section of the male body (pun intended) among my 5,000 friends, so I knew they would have the answers. Not surprisingly, the comment stream was long. At the beginning, my male friends were as confused as I. Some dismissed the whole notion that this was a rape.
“Unless you are a straight man with dudes forcing sex on you, you can’t be raped,” said one. “You can’t rape the willing,” said another. More than a couple said they couldn’t comment because they were busy booking a ticket to Africa.
So, I brought up the drug and gunpoint thing again. Was ejaculation possible under such circumstances? The answers were mixed.
What Guys Think About Men Raped By Women
“If you’re scared and drugged, you're not going to orgasm.”
“I don't agree. If a man is stimulated, he would ejaculate regardless of ‘willing’ or not.”
“It's not uncommon, since men produce sperm when intoxicated.”
Then came a true voice of wisdom. One of my Facebook friends teaches at a medical school and tells me this very question is sometimes on medical board exams. So here’s how the professor weighed in:
“Ejaculation is a spinal level reflex; it can happen. I have seen it happen in people having seizures or read documented evidence that it happens during hanging too. It's even a question asked on med boards often enough whether a tetraplegic can ejaculate. It's my understanding that as long as the sympathetic nervous arc is intact, one can come. For erection it's a parasympathetic one, and it's influenced by the higher centers, i.e. erotic thoughts, etc.”
Thanks, Doc. In household language, he’s basically saying that an erection isn’t necessary to produce sperm. Got it.
Of course, the much more important question here isn’t medical; it’s criminal. Can a woman rape a man? Yes. If someone does not agree to have sex with another and a sexual act is forced upon them, that is called rape. And it is clearly illegal, hopefully as much in Africa as in North America.
Read more: http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_3800/3838_men-raped-by-women.html#ixzz2JlMxWmrZ
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So glad you posted this. Yes women can rape men and it happens more often than is reported.
In an Anita Blake book, a 14 year old boy is raped by a woman. She ties him down and touches him, and eventually gets on him.
I don't like the saying that if you enjoy it, it isn't rape for men, when if a woman says "no" at any time, any further penitration is considered rape.
I guess I mean... In the book, the young boy couldn't help reacting, but he was absolutely terrified, to the point where he was crying (if I remember correctly).
I know it is a book written on imagination - but the underlaying message is still there - men can be just as violated, just as terrified as a woman, no matter how their body reacts.
"Your mouth is saying no, but your body is saying yes" is another example.
Just because you can... Perform, doesn't mean you're enjoying ut - it's usually the natural reaction.
I agree with lullaby n the same for women. The body reacts when it is touched, no matter how. It is just our nature.
Is it just me? Every time I watch a post apocalyptic type movie and they show a female, I just know they've written in a rape scene or an almost gets rape scene. I mean it's a trend. Everybody looking for food, water, weapons and oh...let's take a 5 minute break to rape the woman that is just as smelly and dirty as the rest of us because like roaches, horniness is hard to kill.
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They are just playing into the sex and violence correlation thats embedded in popular culture.
In a real life situation where women would end up as a carce commodity, rape would be one of the number one ways in which the males would try to dominate and control the situation, and the women.
Probably the other men too, if you think about the dehumanising effects of rape in regards to using it as a toold to exert power.
In every single book series I have read in the last 24 months, there has been at least one brutal, graphic rape.
It's one of the worst trends out a the moment in the entertainment world.
I suppose to be prepared for the end times one would need a few kits, sewing kit, medical kit, rape kit, however, the rape kit would be a little different. It would contain, birth control, penicillin, day after pill, wet naps, etc etc....
And like you said...horniness IS hard to kill.
If I had something that the majority of people on Earth wanted and some out right needed it and I could freely give it away, sell it or just keep it to myself and watch the number of haters increase.......I suppose I would know how a female feels every single day. ^_^
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Something like that........
^_^
Not quite.
So a friend of mine and his wife have been mad at each other for about 2 weeks. She did something, was found to be in the wrong, but wanted him to apologize for making the point that she was wrong. He told me the first thing that went away was 'sex' to force him to apologize to her. I was like dude, most women play that card right up front. He said that's not a problem anymore since porn is free online. So now she's upset with him for watching porn. LMAO!!!
What a chill day.
Completed watching Seasons 1 & 2 of 'The Legend of the Seeker'. It was pretty good.
Now I'm watching 'The Secrets of Isis' on Hulu. I remember watching this growing up in the 70s.
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tr1n1ty01
16:42 Feb 28 2013
LMAO!!! I have used this on the fb page I admin on...lol All the butthurt people out there in fb land.
It KILLS me every time I see someone on here say "Today is my last day here." Why not just delete now??? LOL They want the, "Oh no, please don't go bullshit" LOL
deathnitegrl
17:21 Feb 28 2013
don't cry for me vr, i will leave the same way i entered. *sad background music*
XbluesandX
17:21 Feb 28 2013
Ok!!! That's it!!! I'm leaving!!! You are all so mean!!!
LORDMOGY
17:23 Feb 28 2013
Too funny! ^_^
dabbler
20:48 Feb 28 2013
Now I feel bad, I may have been the reason behind one person leaving the site...