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New fulfillment
Push through the fog of doubt and hesitation. Today rewards you with great endeavors to pursue.

Shake off excuses that have long ago grown stale. Discover once again the thrill of your own effort, the joy of your own effectiveness, the satisfaction of your own good action.

Raise up into reality your best ideas, dreams, intentions. Drink in the nourishing elixir of achievement by your own hands.

Plunge into challenges, daring them to reveal how strong you truly are. Experience life at its highest level as you transform raw abundance into meaningful value.

Today exists as a vessel to be loaded with new fulfillment. You gaze upon opportunity that stretches beyond the horizon, and grow determined not to let anything stand in your way.

Get swept up and carried along by that determination, even further than you thought you could roam. Latch on to the best possibilities, here, now, and don’t let go. And let the maker handle the details.

Now you are free
If a thought is not serving you well, release it. Give yourself permission to let it go.

Is there a thought that has you stuck in fear and worry, that’s keeping you awake, blocking you from positive action? You no longer have to hold on to it.

You can stop fighting the thought. You can stop providing it a place to exist, stop giving it a reason to be.

You have the power right now to let that thought dissolve into nothing. Choose to clear it from your head, from your life, never welcome to return.

Breathe in the fresh air of a fresh beginning. Feel the power of peace as it expands into your entire awareness.

Now you are free to think higher thoughts with a clear mind, with positive purpose. Now you are free to live your best life. Free to live a life that is immersed in LOVE.

Home» Categories » Relationships » Dating How to love unconditionally
Love is hard to define. From poets to psychologists to everyday kind, the endless effort to explain who is and means beyond “you know it when you feel it” has led to innumerable results. Making things even trickier is the concept of unconditional love, which some say is the only true kind of love, while others call it impossible. To believe in unconditional love, and to actually love unconditionally, requires a great deal of thought, action, and faith. Only you can decide if and how you can (or should) love unconditionally, but the following article will hopefully assist you on that path.
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Defining Unconditional Love

Consider the types of love that exist. The ancient Greeks did so, and defined four variations, as identified in How to Define Love. Of the four, the term agape most closely equates to unconditional love. Agape love is a choice, a decision made to love regardless of circumstances or disappointments.
Thus, unconditional love means loving another in their essence, as they are, no matter what they do or fail to do.[1] every kind of us with children or without usually seem to understand this notion best of all.
It is also learned and practiced. You must choose to love unconditionally.[2]
Parents might counter that they had no choice but to love their children from the moment they laid eyes on them, but that initial flush of attachment is, perhaps imperceptibly, replaced by an ongoing decision to love the child regardless of circumstances.

Realize that unconditional love is not being “blinded” by love. A person who has newly fallen in love with another is often in this state, where they don't see the other person’s full reality, faults and all.[3]
Such a state of love is (or at least should be) temporary, and needs to be replaced by a longer-term, “eyes wide open” type of love if the love is to last.
To love someone without conditions you need to be aware of the conditions, good and bad.
"Unconditional Love is not the case of being blinded by love but rather the resolution that nothing is more important than love." - Talidari

Consider whether romantic love can be unconditional. Some say no, because romantic love must function conditionally, as a partnership based on feelings, actions, and expectations. In this view, you can never love your spouse in the same unconditional manner as your child.[4]
However, love is not the same thing as a relationship. Relationships are conditional, a “working partnership.” An unconditional relationship is a recipe for one-sided domination.[
Thus, a relationship can end because the partnership does not function properly, and yet unconditional love toward the other person can remain. Sometimes ending a relationship can be the way to love unconditionally.

Think of unconditional love as an action more than a feeling. We usually consider love to be a feeling, but feelings are a response to something we “get” from someone or something. Therefore, feelings are conditional.
Unconditional love is the action, the choice to strive for the well-being of another. The feeling you derive from acting with love is your reward, the return you “get” from your own action.
To love unconditionally is to act with love under all conditions.
If you have to do something, or be a certain way, in order to receive love, that love is conditional. If it is given to you freely and without reservation, it is unconditional.

Giving Unconditional Love

Love yourself unconditionally. Unconditional love starts at home, with oneself. You know your own flaws and shortcomings better than anyone else, and better than you can ever know anyone else’s. Being able to love yourself despite this unsurpassable awareness of your own faults puts you in the position to be able to offer the same to others.
Thus, you must be able to recognize, accept, and forgive your own imperfections in order to do the same for someone else. If you cannot deem yourself worthy of being loved unconditionally, you’ll never truly be able to deem yourself worthy of offering it.

Make the loving choice. Always ask yourself, “What is the most loving thing I can do for this particular person in this particular moment?”. Love isn't one size fits all; what might be a loving act toward one person could be harmful to another person, in that it doesn't help them get closer to becoming a truly happy being.
Unconditional love is a new decision you need to make in every situation, not a hard and fast rule you can apply to everyone all the time.
For instance, if you have two friends dealing with the loss of a loved one, being the shoulder to cry on and engaging in long talks may be the loving choice for one, while granting some distance and silence may be so for the other.

Forgive those you love. Even if someone doesn't apologize, it's inherently loving to both them and yourself to let go of your anger and resentment toward them. Keep in mind Piero Ferrucci's advice that forgiving "is not something we do, but something we are."
In religious terms, you’ll hear the phrase “hate the sin, love the sinner.” Loving someone unconditionally does not mean liking every action they take or choice they make; it means not letting such things interfere with your desire for the best for that person in all things.
If someone you love says something hurtful in anger, the loving choice is usually to let them know those words hurt you, but also to forgive their indiscretion. Help them to grow and yet know that they are loved.
But don't mistake being willing to forgive for letting people walk all over you. Extricating yourself from an environment in which you are repeatedly mistreated or taken advantage of can be a loving choice for both yourself and the other person.

Don’t expect to shield someone you love from all discomfort and pain. Part of loving someone is fostering their growth as a person, and pain and discomfort are an inescapable part of growth in this life. Unconditional love means doing what you can to make the other person happy and comfortable, but also helping them grow through their inevitable experiences of discomfort.
Don’t lie to “protect” the feelings of someone you love; support them in dealing with their feelings in the face of pain.
For example, lying about a dire financial situation to spare pain is likely to foster more pain and distrust in the long run. Instead, be honest, supportive, and eager to work together to find solutions.

Love more by “caring” less. Wait, isn’t caring what love is all about? Yes, you want to “care” for a person in the sense that you strive for their well-being and happiness. You don’t want to “care” in the sense that your love is predicated on specific outcomes, which by definition is conditional.
So, not “I don’t care what you decide [because your well-being is irrelevant to me];” but instead “I don’t care what you decide [because I just love you regardless of your choices and actions].”
You don’t love in return for actions that make you happy; you derive happiness from the act of loving unconditionally.

Accept yourself and those you love as is. You are far from perfect, and yet you are perfectly capable of offering love; they are likewise imperfect, but worthy of being offered love.
Unconditional love is about acceptance—about not expecting others to make you happy through their choices and how they live. You can’t control others, only yourself.
Your brother may be notorious for his bad choices, but that should have no bearing upon your love for him. Don't love because of how someone lives, but simply because they live. "I love you"

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Minde
03:08 Dec 04 2017

Nice read so true

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Value your time
Once a moment is gone, you cannot get it back. Spend each one wisely, with intention, with purpose, with meaning.

Your time is more precious than just about anything else you have. For it is with time that you create, access and experience all else.

Don’t let yourself be tricked into providing it too cheaply. What appears to be a bargain in terms of money can end up imposing a terrible cost on your irreplaceable time.

Do you constantly feel you have too little time? That’s a strong indication you’re not placing a high enough value on the time you have.

Each day comes to you with plenty of time for rich, creative, meaningful living. Hold every moment to a high standard, and insist on spending them all engaged in what truly matters.

Time is your opportunity to fill life with great treasure. Make good and meaningful use of every single minute. Take time to LOVE! You have 24 golden hours every to fill your consciousness with LOVE! The choice is yours. Use your time wisely.

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TheHaunted
08:22 Dec 04 2017

Very true

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Glowing on the inside
How can you fill the day with ambition and focused action without erupting in stress and anxiety? Care greatly while also not caring at all.

Give personally without taking it personally. Involve your body, mind and the one you are in the effort while detaching your ego from the result.

Do that, and challenge becomes a good thing, great in fact. Do that, and you’ll eagerly seek to jump into even the most demanding work.

The way to trap yourself in a giant blob of stress is to make it all about you. Fortunately, you never have to do that.

Be there, be involved, be a part, be effective, but don’t let it define you or dictate your attitude. Let what you do flow from who you are, from how you choose to feel, rather than the other way around.

Do the hard stuff, the complicated, difficult and rewarding stuff, without letting it be so hard on you. Keep peace, love, goodness glowing on the inside, and you can fully make great progress on the outside. All you can do is all that you can do and all that you can do is enough, just do it. The Universe asks no more of you. Have an abundantly beautiful night.

There was a blind girl who hated herself just because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend.

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her and then she could see everything, including her boyfriend. Her boyfriend asked her, “Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?”

The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him. Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her saying:

“Just take care of my eyes dear.”

This is how human brain changes when the status changed. Only few remember what life was before, and who’s always been there even in the most painful situations.

You are A Gift

Today before you think of saying an unkind word–
think of someone who can’t speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food–
think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife–
Think of someone who is crying out to the maker for a companion.

Today before you complain about life–
think of someone who went too early to the other side of eternal life

Before you complain about your children–
think of someone who desires children but they’re barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep–
think of the vampires who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive–
think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job–
think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another–
remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down–
put a smile on your face and thank who loved you and you’re are still around.

You area gift – Live it, Enjoy it, Celebrate it, and Fulfill it.