02:04 Aug 18 2012
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It's been a while. Summer was rough on me with the heat and lack of freedom or time. Being on VR dropped right off the priorities list. School starts in a few days for my kids and I am looking forward to full days alone and plenty of time to clean my house. I have a "new" typewriter that I am itching to use. Maybe I can convince my pal across the pond to be a snail mail pal in addition to the emails, journal entries and PM's.
I am reposting a few of my status from facebook for reflection, discussion and possibly argument.
This will be the "Best of's" from August; thus far.
August 1
Deer Park touts the line "Not All Waters are Created Equal".
To this I say, "Oh really?"
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August 3 at 9:56am
Something is disturbing me at the moment so allow me to gather my thoughts here.
I have shared a news post about a man who beat his woman so severely that it caused a miscarriage. His action was terrible and he should be punished severely. People are posting that no man should beat a woman and my feeling is that no one should beat anyone, regardless of gender.
The story says she is the mother of two of his children was pregnant with another and came home at 3am after being out with friends. Unless she was the designated driver, she really should have been at home with her man and her kids. That's just family values. A pregnant woman needs rest and nutrition her children still need care during the waking hours, how can she provide that on 3 or 4 hours of sleep(if the man is working)? I don't think she should have been beaten though. That is not my point.
Let me continue.
So this family has two children with one on the way. Mama thinks it's ok to be out partying at all hours of the night while pregnant and already having responsibilities. Daddy seems to have a bad temper. These issues do not usually spring up overnight. The existing children have probably been witness to multiple altercations through their young lives. Everything from screaming and name calling to all out knock down fights. All the while Mama stayed. Why? Because she loves him?
A long ago friend once told me a bit of advice, "If he cheats and if he is hitting you, it means he doesn't like you. Leave!"
I think this advice can be extended to include the all time greatest hits: if he doesn't trust you, if he must control you and if you have to ask the question.
Now when I put the male in the villains role I am generalizing. Men get abused too, often when they stay it is out of shame more than anything. People will ask why he allows her to hit him, why doesn't he knock her out put her in her place.
Go back to the top and start reading again.
American families are in so much trouble.
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August 3
It is time to do my housework but my mind will still be running through everything I have seen today. The state of American society, the economy, what people find important. The way people see two sides of an argument and fight bitterly over it armed with feelings, opinions, overblown statements. The way that people only want to solve violence with violence and sexual discrimination with sex.
These problems will be here tomorrow and the next day and every day after. I will concentrate my efforts on the center of my life; my family, my personal faith and my relationship with my community and I will wait for my opportunity to speak for myself and my opinion and what I would like to see happen in my country.
Arguments will continue to be one sided and self defense will always be a matter of perspective and even when people are still allowed to marry for love regardless of gender people will still face marital restrictions imposed by society and by religion.
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August 4
How I forget to eat.
It's really very simple. It starts with an ache in my tummy that goes up to my throat and I realize I should have a sandwich. I go into the kitchen to make a sandwich and find that I need to wash the dishes. After dishes are done I need a rag to wipe the table with so that I can have a clean work space so I fold the laundry and put it away and then start another load. While I am in the laundry room I realize the litter box needs emptied so I take it to dump it and hose it out. While outside I walk through the garden and maybe do some weeding and then realize that I need my string to tie the tomatoes up a bit more so I go back inside to get it, forgetting the litterbox. Once inside I realize I am thirsty so I drink some water and remember I wanted a sandwich. I need to finish up outside first though so I go back out. Tie up the tomatoes, do some more weeding, add water to the birdbath and then bring the litterbox back in. Sweep and clean the laundry room floor, dry and refill the litterbox, scoop the second litterbox and dump the compost bucket outside. Come back in and put it away.
What was I going to do? I have forgotten.
Oh yeah, a sandwich. Well dinner is in a couple of hours so I guess it can probably wait....
And now you know.
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August 6
Today has been filled with many things. I woke up to rain. I fed the animals and did my daily chores. I discovered caterpillars eating my tree and a frog living in my birdbath. My son went to the dentist for a drill and fill and experienced Novocain. Dr. Hillers is young, attractive and always puts people at ease. I think it was a good experience.
While we were there I saw on the news that a man walked into a place of worship and killed 6 innocent people as a result of his hatred and rage. I had but a moment to wonder how long people would care about these 6, after all they were in a place of worship not a movie theater and their only crime was that perhaps the man mistook them for Muslim. It is all quite sad and puts things momentarily into a place of clarity before I moved on with my day.
Window shopping, lunch and then finally grocery shopping.
I am blessed to be able to live a life so peaceful.
To be continued....
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