04:28 May 25 2006
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When I wrote my entry yesterday I was a little worried that I would have an inbox full of nasty comments on my return. Not a single one though!!!!! Instead I received many messages from females telling me that I am right and that they have observed that as well and even practiced.
The person that inspired me to the previous entry was quite pleased with its outcome.
Below you can find the best feedback I have received from someone. Her comments are in red.
I'm ging to have to agree with you on this entry.
I've sat back and watched, exactly what u just described, happen quite often.
True some females have a hard time making up their mind. That doesnt always come very easily,
but, when it comes to a relationship... either you want it or you dont.
Theres no point in agreeing to get into a relationship, if you have doubts about it to begin with.
Apparently some females do have those doubts, yet jump into a relationship anyways, thinking
it really doesnt matter-- "easy way in, easy way out."
Yes, in my opinion, that is an irrational move. Some females do that, often, and if they disagree with that, they
are completely in denial. Hell, Im a female, I've done it, I've hopped into a relationship just to jump right out of it again
Thats simply because I didnt know what I wanted, I was slightly worried about pleasing myself with the fact that I was in a relationship,and didnt bother
analyzing the situation and understanding how it would make the other half feel.
Most people, (male or female) have had that happen and or done that before. It is a re-occuring pattern.
Especially within the people who dont know what they want, cant make up their minds, and jump into something they cannot or do not want to deal with.
Now to analyze it all.
We put aside the fact that I don’t do friendship after a relationship but what do we notice in this process?
I went through a few previous relationships and the pattern was similar. The female doesn’t take the male’s emotions into consideration as soon as they get involved, only hers.
That is what I call irrational thinking. That is not constructive, that is destructive. The relationship never had a chance and was over before it even began. Is it so hard to think about others from time to time?
I know that some males are like that as well but I have noticed this pattern in quite a few women.
First and foremost..I completely agree. I have observed that quite abit as well.
Any and all relationships should be a 50/50 thing, with each side taking the other's feeling into consideration, before they make any decision that could make or break (so to speak) the other person.
Thats what a relationship is all about. The ones who cannot handle that, obviously do not know what they want, and or cannot handle any kind of relationship.
Thats when you know you should look past it, move on and find someone who knows what they want, someone mature enough to handle some kind of relationship.
Why not approach it differently, more rational? All our actions have an affect on someone so let’s try to act to everyone’s satisfaction. With a relationship you have taken part-responsibility for your partners emotions. If you try to keep your partners emotions up you will benefit from it as well. Make your partner feel special. Show your partner that you think about him, care about him, that your partner is an important part of you. Make your partner happy and you will see that you are automatically happy as well. Try it out and you will see what I mean. A core part of a relationship is making your partner happy. If you can do that the relationship will be a huge success. If you do not take your partners emotions into consideration then you will see how fast it will become a huge failure.
This is one of the best "layouts" for an equal relationship I've ever read from anyone.
It too bad, some people cannot fully understand this. More people should think along the same lines of this statement.
I am convinced that things would look much better if females thought more rational.
Call me sexist now, I don’t care, I know that I am not. I know that not all females are like that. I am just generalizing but I have to admit that I see the pattern mentioned above quite frequently
I would not in any way consider this sexist. Speaking on females specifically, I've seen it. Been there, done that. Understand exactly what your saying.
Once again, you are correct. There is no need for me to say much as you have said it good enough.
As for the friendship after a relationship, where is the point in that?
Someone gave you their heart and now they take it back again?
You gave them your heart and they don’t want it anymore?
Why would you settle for less than you had before?
Do you think that the friendship will be as good as it was before the relationship?
You reached the peak and favour the descent?
Occasionally the whole "friendship" thing can work out, but for the most part it really doesnt.
Not oly that But you are right, there is no point in it.
Like you said, why settle for less than you had before.
ou shouldn't. Take what u can get the first round, if it gets better, so be it, if it is reduces to less, move on.
The friendship usually, most of the time, is never as good as it was before.
Desiring the decent. Its not about desiring it.. in my opinion, its a subconsience thing, to make them feel better
about what they are doing and ease themselves from the lingering effects that they are hurting someone else.
With the many messages I received today I learnt that women are actually aware of it. Well, stop doing it then please. Treat you partner’s feelings as if they were yours and relationships will be much much happier and actually worth having!
Are you surprised that there are so many people with trust issues?
Keep it rational, keep it considerate and I will congratulate you to your new found happiness!
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