Why are so many of the female persuasion just plain stupid. I know, I know, I'm insulting my own here but really ladies. When did we decide all men have to be changed and bent to our will. Why can't we just let them be? It is exactly what we expect of them for us.
What is it that drives you to change him? Why are you surprised when he turns out to be exactly what he told you he was? Do you think it's all a game? Do you think it's a ploy to captivate your curiousity and then not follow through? MEN DO NOT THINK LIKE US!
As women we tend to be coy and competitive and well, down right bitchy. You think men are competitive? Watch two women try to take the same man home from the bar. Worse case scenerio there's a fight. Mostly there is name calling and games to make each other look bad. Rumors are spread and feeling are hurt. We toy with emotions to get what we want.
Men do not do this. They speak what is going through their brain. They do not "drop hints", nor do they pick up on them very well, (sorry guys, it's the truth though). Men need directness. They need to know you mean what you say. Don't tell him what he wants to hear just so you can get your way. Sometimes the truth hurts, both parties, those telling it and those receiving it.
You want a real relationship? You want an explanation why you're not happy? Here it is...stop trying to make him into something he is not. If he is not what you want, tell him and move on. If he is more than you can handle, admit it to yourself and him, and again, move on. Don't expect hime to change and conform to what your "ideal" man is. He will eventually resent you for it and you will both end up miserable.
Wake up ladies. If he isn't everything you are looking for, he isn't the one for you. Don't settle because things are "okay". Things are not okay, things could be so much better. When you find the right one, you won't have to change a thing and hopefully, for both your sakes, he won't be overly damaged by other women. Men's emotions are just as fragile as our own, they just choose not to express them. Remember that the next time you try to manipulate some poor undeserving soul to your will. He is perfect in someone's eyes, so let him be.
Fm
Why do I continue to find myself up at this hour? I've just sent my love to bed and yet cannot sleep myslef. Unable to still my mind.
Is this really it? Is this how I will spend the rest of my days? Goddess above I hope so...my mind, heart, body and soul have been captivated.
I only want to give all of myself, if you'll have me...
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