I just got my bill for my little overnight stay in the hospital from 2 weeks ago. Ready for this? $22,415.29...now, because I don't have insurance they've deducted $16,139.01 leaving me a measly 6k to pay for...fuck...hopefully they can take a bit out of each pay check as I work for the hospital but, still. Owie.
I was born wanted. I was born loved. I was born needed and planned for and cherished. I was born into the definition of love. I have been surrounded with love and adoration all my life. I've been told I can do whatever I want. I have accomplished everything in my life because of the love and support that I was born to. The family that has never failed me and never will.
I have witnessed friends who's parents did what they had to do only because the had to do it. These children were not planned for. They were not expected and in some cases not wanted. They were oopses, mistakes, and have spent their lives aware they were such. Some were dumped off on other family members. Some were simply reminded daily that they were never intended.
So why has it been a wonder to me until this moment why they fight so hard to please. Why they try so hard to succeed. Why they need that pat on the back so badly. And why no matter how much success they achieve unless it's acknowledged by the people who gave them life it will never be enough. At what point do they stop looking to the ones who hold them down, to start holding them up?
Some of those parents have grown. They've grown up and become better people. They have honestly tried to turn their lives around and build a relationship with those "unwanted" children. Sometimes, too much damage has been done. Sometimes, they come from the wrong direction and try to establish a parent/child relationship with a child who is no longer a child. So have they really grown? Or only grown to the point that meets their own needs?
And what of the ones who want a second chance through their grandchildren. Do they deserve that chance? Do they deserve to be that person to the children of the child the couldn't or wouldn't be there for?
The question remains, when does forgiveness begin? When do you learn to let go. When do you realize that it was your childhood. And though it wasn't as wonderful as it should have been, it's over. When do all those awful moments of rejection as an innocent child who understands nothing of the unfairness of the world, when do those hurts heal and when do we move on?
I get it now. I understand the drive to please. The drive to make everyone in your life feel wanted. To make those in your life understand they are supposed to be there. You want them there and they are LOVED.
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The answer to the question is extremely difficult - and it definitely depends from person to person. I don't know that I will ever be able to completely get over what I went through, the wounds and trauma run too deep. All I can do is make sure the bullshit stops with my generation - because I will not fail at stopping myself from continuing the major failures of my father and grandfather into the next generation and beyond. The discord and dishonor among the men in my family will cease with me....Because I would rather be dead that be dishonorable.
I think I have officially been assimilated. I now understand the game and I am starting to understand the standings points system thingy...(yes I said "thingy").
The good news, the Buffalo Sabres won their game tonight in OT which earned them 2pts. in the standings. This moves them 1 point ahead of Carolina with a game in hand. (I'm sure birra or MasterPhoenix will correct me if I stated that wrong.) They now have a playoff spot and a good chance at hanging on to it or moving further up in the standings.
If I thought MP was a different man watching the regular season games...I'm a touch afraid of what the play-offs will do to him. :p
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Exactly. 1-point ahead, one game in hand and they have more wins - which gives them the first tie-breaker if they finish with the same number of points.
They are 2-points behind the Rangers for 7th place and have three games in hand on them.
You are correct....Except now, the Sabres are in 7th place overall in the Eastern Conference, tied with the NY Rangers with 74 points (but Buffalo has 2 games in hand on them).
When the playoffs get here, the proverbial gloves will come off - It's a whole different atmosphere. Hockey is not a sport, it's a way of life.
GO SABRES!!!!!
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birra
03:32 Mar 29 2011
Good.
Fucking.
Hell.
Did they have to replace an organ?
Saetan
03:46 Mar 29 2011
And I thought mine was bad and I didn't even stay over night - I also have no insurance but when I broke my foot the bill came out to a little over $5000.
MasterPhoenix
06:12 Mar 30 2011
Don't forget Birra, they charge between $10 and $20 for a damn tylenol. The pharmacy tried to tell FM that there was no generic form to PRILOSEC, which is retarded - I'm not even a pharmacy technician and I know there is. Insurance companies, and insurance laws definitely need an overhaul...It's overpriced guesswork in my opinion.