I have finished working on http://www.angelfire.com/nc3/nola and have added 291 more pages full of photos of my dearly belated wife on there.
I am so tired from having lost my wife and having to live without her too. I wished I could go to sleep forever and not have to wake up ever again.
I have had some ppl tell me "oh you'll ehal in time" or "It'll take time to heal" yeah...right...that's BS man!!!!!!!!!!!
if you lose a child you lose your world and heart, soul, and mind but when you lose your spouse your lose your world, heart, soul, mind and future.
You are never the same when you lose your child or spouse. You aren't the same person you used to be before death took your child or spouse away from you.
Your heart has been ripped from you and you now feel so empty and so lost and so alone that nothing can ever fill that huge void in your heart back up ever again.
You then feel tired, no energy to do anything nor even the energy to get out and do things like you used. You feel tired all the time and all you wanna do is sleep all the time.
This is how I feel and I'll always feel for good.....nothing will ever change how I feel and I do mean nothing.
This has been the worst year for me in the past 10 yrs. The 1st worst was me losing my mother on Jan 23, 1995. Now I have lost the one that was my heart and my soul and my life.
Nothing will ever be the same for me ever again.
Today would've made it 4 yrs of marriage to Nola had she been alive and I am lost and lonely without her. I have done tried to get my life back in order but it seems it's taking alot longer than what I've been told by others. Last night I tried to commit suicide. I damn near came close had it not been for someone on here (Vampire Rave) to talk me out of it.
Why must it hurt so much and the loss be so great as well. I live alone and no one comes to see me in person and I have no one to lean on in real life and I am too afraid to lean on anyone anyways.
One person I am leaning on is a friend who is on here. If it wasn't for that person, I'd probably be going crazy and probably already hae done committed suicide.
All I just wanna do is nothing but morn and grieve and die. People say "be thankful is was a short marriage and you now you can go on and enjoy life" yeah right.
I'm 41 and I've been married 2 times before I had met and married and lost Nola to sepsis (blood poisoning). Why couldn't it have been me instead of her to die, at least she would've been with her kids.
I don't know anymore. With the way the world is turning out and how people are treating each other now a days I wonder if there is any good reason why I should keep on living when I don't see I am needed nor wanted anymore anyways.
No wonder people don't see anything good in marriage anymore as they all treat it as a "ball and chain" and also treat it as the worst you can get into.
I have always believed that marriage is a good thing and that you make marriage either for good or for bad. It's how you and your mate chose it to be.
Anyways I have said enough on here. I'll probably write later.
WhiteSnowWolf
extremely long survey | |
ABOUT YOU | |
Your full name:: | William Paul Seifert |
Age:: | 41 |
Height:: | 5 ft. 6.in |
Natural hair colour:: | Brown |
Eye colour:: | Brown |
Number of siblings:: | 2 |
Glasses/contacts?:: | Yes |
Piercings:: | 1 in the left ear |
Tattoos:: | none |
Braces?:: | nope |
FAVOURITE | |
Colour:: | Too Many To Name |
Band:: | Too Many |
Song:: | Too Many |
Stuffed animal:: | bears |
Video game:: | can't Decide |
TV show:: | Dark Shadows |
Movie:: | Lord Of The Rings Triliogy, Harry Potter Movies, And Others. |
Book:: | Sci-fi, Romance, Mystery, murder mystery. |
Food:: | Different Foods |
Game on a cell phone:: | None |
CD cover:: | I don't know |
Flower:: | Red Roses |
Scent:: | Clean |
Animal:: | Wolve |
Comic book:: | Different Ones |
Cereal:: | Differnt Ones |
Website:: | https://www.vampirerave.com/ |
Cartoon:: | Can't Decide |
DO YOU | |
Play an instrument?:: | no |
Watch TV more than 60 hours a week?:: | not really |
Like to sing?:: | yes |
Have a job?:: | no but looking |
Have a cell phone?:: | yes but cut off |
Like to play sports?:: | nope |
Have a boyfriend/girlfriend?:: | I Can't Say...It's A Secret |
Have a crush on someone?:: | I Can't Say...It's A Secret |
Live somewhere NOT in the united states?:: | Nope |
Have more than 5 TVs in your house?:: | Nope |
Have any special talents/skills?:: | I Don't Know |
Excercise daily?:: | rarely |
Like school?:: | yes |
CAN YOU | |
Sing the alphabet backwards?:: | nope |
Stand on your tip toes without wearing shoes?:: | yes |
Speak any other languages?:: | nope |
Go a day without food?:: | yes |
Stay up for more than 24 hours?:: | yes |
Read music, not just tabs?:: | yes |
Roll your tongue?:: | yes |
Eat a whole pizza?:: | yes |
HAVE YOU EVER | |
Snuck out of the house?:: | Yes |
Cried to get out of trouble?:: | no |
Gotten lost in your city?:: | no |
Seen a shooting star?:: | yes |
Been to any other countries besides the united states?:: | no |
Had a serious surgery?:: | yes |
Stolen something important to someone else?:: | no |
Solved a rubiks cube?:: | no |
Gone out in public in your pajamas?:: | no |
Cried over a girl?:: | yes |
Cried over a boy?:: | no |
Kissed a random stranger?:: | no |
Hugged a random stranger?:: | yes |
Been in a fist fight?:: | yes |
Been arrested?:: | yes |
Done drugs?:: | no |
Had alcohol?:: | yes |
Laughed and had milk come out of your nose?:: | no |
Pushed all the buttons on an elevator?:: | no |
Gone to school only to find you had the day off because of a holiday/etc?:: | no |
Swore at your parents?:: | yes |
Been to warped tour?:: | no |
Kicked a guy where it hurts?:: | no |
Been in love?:: | yes |
Been close to love?:: | yes |
Been to a casino?:: | no |
Ran over an animal and killed it?:: | yes :( |
Broken a bone?:: | yes |
Gotten stitches?:: | yes |
Had a waterballoon fight in winter?:: | no |
Drank a whole gallon of milk in one hour?:: | yes |
Made homemade muffins?:: | no |
Bitten someone?:: | yes :) |
Been to disneyland/disneyworld?:: | no |
More than 5 times?:: | no |
Been to niagra falls?:: | no |
Burped in someones face?:: | yes, my brother |
Gotten the chicken pox?:: | yes |
WHENS THE LAST TIME YOU | |
Brushed your teeth:: | yes |
Went to the bathroom:: | yes |
Saw a movie in theaters:: | no not lately |
Read a book:: | yes |
Had a snow day:: | no |
Had a party:: | no |
Had a slumber party:: | no |
Made fun of someone:: | no |
Tripped in front of someone:: | yes |
Went to the grocery store:: | yes |
Got sick:: | yes |
Cursed:: | yes |
PICK ONE | |
Fruit/vegetables:: | oranges |
Black/white:: | both |
Lights on/lights off:: | don't matter |
TV/movie:: | XXX-Rated Flick |
Car/truck:: | car |
Body spray/lotion:: | Don't Know |
Cash/check:: | Cash |
Pillows/blankets:: | both |
Headache/stomach ache:: | all of them |
Paint/charcoal:: | both |
Chinese food/mexican food:: | both |
Summer/winter:: | Winter |
Snow/rain:: | Both |
Fog/misty:: | Both |
Rock/rap:: | Rock |
Meat/vegetarian:: | Both |
Boy/girl:: | gilr |
Chocolate/vanilla:: | Chocolate |
Sprinkles/icing:: | both |
Cake/pie:: | both |
French toast/french fries:: | both |
Strawberries/blueberries:: | both |
Ocean/swimming pool:: | noth |
Hugs/kisses:: | both |
Cookies/muffins:: | cookies |
p33n/bewbz:: | I don't know |
Wallet/pocket:: | both |
Window/door:: | both |
Emo/goth:: | both |
Pink/purple:: | both |
Cat/dog:: | cat |
Long sleeve/short sleeve:: | both |
Pants/shorts:: | both |
Winter break/spring break:: | both |
Spring/autumn:: | autumn |
Clouds/clear sky:: | both |
Moon/mars:: | both |
FRIENDSHIP | |
How many friends do you have?:: | I don't know |
What are their names?:: | I can't say |
Do you have a best friend?:: | yes |
Have you ever liked one of your friends?:: | yes |
Do you have more guy friends or more girl friends?:: | girlfriends |
Have you ever lost a friend?:: | yes |
Have you ever gone to an amusement park with a friend?:: | yes |
Whats an inside joke between you and a friend?:: | don't remember |
Have you ever gotten in a big arguement with a friend?:: | yes |
Whats the nicest thing youve ever done for a friend?:: | be there |
Whats the nicest thing a friend has ever done for you?:: | I don't remember |
Do you miss any of your old friends?:: | yes |
What friend have you known the longest?:: | Teresa fron Jr. High until 1998 |
Do you regret anything youve done to a friend?:: | no |
If so, what is it?:: | |
How often do you spend time with your friends?:: | I don't know |
Do any of your friends drive?:: | yes |
Has a friend of yours ever died?:: | yes |
Whats the dumbest thing youve done with a friend?:: | don't remember |
What do you think your friends think of you?:: | I don't know |
LOVE AND ALL THAT CRAP | |
Have you ever been in love?:: | yes |
If you have, with who?:: | with my belated wife |
Are you single?:: | yes |
Are you in a relationship?:: | I won't tell |
If so, for how long?:: | I won't tell |
Do you believe there is someone for everyone?:: | yes |
What is your idea of the best date?:: | Can't Say |
What was your first kiss like?:: | Don't Remember |
How old were you when you got your first kiss?:: | Don't Remember |
Do you think love is a load of shit?:: | no |
Whats the best experiance youve ever had with the opposite sex?:: | making love |
If you are single, have you had any boyfriends/girlfriends before?:: | no |
Have you ever been dumped?:: | yes |
Have you ever dumped someone?:: | no |
Whats the most sexual thing youve done with the opposite sex?:: | 69 |
WORD ASSOCIATION | |
Slippers:: | feet |
Hat:: | had |
Hard:: | soft |
Free:: | spirit |
Space:: | me |
Taste:: | great |
Good charlotte:: | ok |
Red:: | love |
Deep:: | time |
Heart:: | huge |
Cord:: | long |
Cheese:: | camera |
Rain:: | love making |
Work:: | play |
Pedal:: | bike |
Head:: | brain |
Bed:: | love making |
Fluff:: | me |
Hardcore:: | SEX |
Race:: | run |
Knife:: | wood |
Jump:: | water |
I.... | |
am:: | am |
want:: | love |
need:: | love |
crave:: | love |
love:: | female |
hate:: | no one |
did:: | wake up |
feel:: | walk |
miss:: | Nola |
am annoyed by:: | myself |
would rather:: | be in love |
am tired of:: | being alone |
will always:: | dream |
SILLY STUFF | |
What is your favourite genre of music?:: | too many |
What time is it now?:: | 1:15 p.m. e.s.t. |
What day is it?:: | Sat. Dec.3, 2005 |
Whens the last time you called someone?:: | last night |
How much money do you have right now?:: | Don't Ask |
Are you hungry?:: | no |
Whatcha doin?:: | doing this |
Do you like parades?:: | yes |
Do you like the moon?:: | yes |
What are you going to do when youre done with this?:: | Don't know |
Isnt cup a funny word when you repeat it over and over?:: | nope |
If you could have any magical power what would it be?:: | to make the dead live again |
Have you ever had a picnic?:: | no |
Did you ever have one of those skip-its when you were young?:: | ???? |
What about sock em boppers?:: | ???? |
Are you wearing any socks right now?:: | no |
DO YOU THINK YOU ARE | |
funny?:: | sometimes |
pretty?:: | no |
sarcastic?:: | depends |
lazy?:: | sometimes |
hyper?:: | yes naturally |
friendly?:: | yes |
evil?:: | no |
smart?:: | no |
strong?:: | no |
talented?:: | no |
dorky?:: | yes |
ASSOCIATE THESE WORDS WITH SOMEONE YOU KNOW (or dont know) | |
high:: | Karen |
skip:: | me |
dance:: | Karen |
lonely:: | Karen |
pen:: | Karen |
flower:: | Karen |
window:: | Karen |
psycho:: | me |
brain freeze:: | Karen |
orange:: | Karen |
sassy:: | Karen |
jelly:: | Karen |
FOR OR AGAINST | |
suicide:: | against |
love:: | for |
drunk drivers:: | against |
airplanes:: | for |
war:: | against |
canada:: | for |
united states:: | for |
rock music:: | for |
gay marriage:: | ????? |
school:: | for |
surveys:: | for |
parents:: | for |
cars:: | for |
killing:: | against |
britney spears:: | for |
coffee:: | for |
pants:: | against |
WOULD YOU EVER | |
Sky dive?:: | no |
Play strip poker?:: | yes |
Run away?:: | no |
Curse at a teacher?:: | did |
Not take a shower for a week?:: | no |
Ask someone out?:: | yes |
Lie to someone to make them think better of you?:: | no |
Visit a foreign country for more than a month?:: | no |
Go scuba diving?:: | yes |
Write a book?:: | yes |
Become a rockstar?:: | don't know |
Have casual sex?:: | Don't Ask |
LAST QUESTIONS | |
What shampoo do you use?:: | Suave |
Whens the last time you did something sexual with the opposite sex?:: | 2003 with my belated wife |
What kind of computer do you have?:: | rebuilt |
What grade are you in?:: | none |
Do you like to throw popcorn at people in the movies?:: | no |
Or just make out?:: | yes |
How many posters do you have in your room?:: | none |
How many cds do you have?:: | 10 I think |
What time is it now?:: | 1:23 p.m. E.S.T. |
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Oh man, I just found out my eletric bill today and I feel so aweful. Ever since Nola passed away I have been struggling like hell to get back on my feet again. I feel like I am losing. I am scared as hell and afraid to ask for help as I am afraid ppl with think that I am just out to use them for anything.
I have done tried to make it again on my own but this time I don't think I can make it alone. I don't know what to do anymore.
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