Lust, Love, and Passion03:33 May 30 2010
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There is a huge difference, and similarity between these three. People though, love mucking up the definitions.
When you lust, its a desire, a want of normally the most carnal, and primal nature. You want what you want, and somehow, you will get it. More often than not, at the destruction of aquaintences, or even full friendships. Others feelings matter little when you lust so intently. This is why people often confuse lust for love, because it is compounded into so much obssesion.
Love, varies and ranges in so many ways I won't sit here for 12 hours just going through half of it. Though what I've experienced of love is thus. Attatchment, fluttering feelings, a desire to be around the person. Jealousy, when time you wish to spend with that person, is instead being taken by something or someone else. Confusion, when you are momentarily dejected because they want time to just be alone, not to be confused for time with other friends. Ownership, thats not a fun feeling to have, or have put upon you. Entitlement to information, this could be anything from looking at a cell phone, to demanding who you were out with.
Pain, often thought of as the end of a relationship, or that something is wrong when there is pain in a relationship. No, without pain of the emotional variety we can't grow in our love, we rarely realize what faults we, or our loved ones might have. The issuses don't get addressed, anger, and irritation can get bottled. Until some stupid thing lights the fuse. Pain is as much a necessity in love, as happiness. Which leads to sadness, missing that loved one, perhaps a stupid arguement went wrong, family misunderstandings, and the ignorance of off hand comments.
Healthy love, is constantly questioning your lifes conditioning, the "advice" of friends, and the feelings and thoughts you constantly have. Its about holding back those hurtful remarks, and instead taking the time to discuss whats wrong. Not blaming yourself for everything that might have gone wrong, especially when it was anothers Choice in the matter. Accepting those beautiful moments that make you happy, and enjoying every moment while it lasts, because no love is perfect as there will always be struggles and trials to overcome. Knowing that if the other person was mature enough to understand you, and love you they would try not to harm you in any fashion, and never cause you to feel shame for being yourself.
Knowing that Sex/Orgasms do not = love.
That be it for now... on love I think.
Passion, Passion is taking the time, to study, and remember every little thing that can cause the person you are with to breath sharply, and shudder whenever you touch them. Though, that also means knowing when to do so, and when not to. Knowing every little physical, and mental tick that creates an arousing response. Passion is also about patience, learning to wait, and making them wait for what you may both want. Teasing, in its many forms and fashions, is not just limited to physical. Hinting, and giving verbal clues can be just as fun, if not more so than physical teasing. Don't use just touch, Sight, sound, smell. If you smell alluring, look appealing, and speak, or grunt lol in a manner you know your partner enjoys you may end up surprised at how much they enjoy the thought of more than pushing them against the wall and going for the neck as your number one go to move.
...- note- IDK why I wrote this, but the thought popped into my head so here it all is.
-Rodman
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