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Man, if I was as devious and crap-tastic as some people seem to think and say, I'd have a lot more things to journal about. I'm pretty damn boring.

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Crowscat
18:21 Apr 29 2019

I love that word "crap-tastic" ☆☆☆☆☆

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imagesinwords
23:50 Apr 29 2019

Word.

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Well shit. Netflix canceled Santa Clarita Diet. Buncha bastards. I was digging it.

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Morrigon
22:46 Apr 27 2019

:(

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MooniePie
01:09 Apr 28 2019

This season has an episode that made me think of you. She ate a really douchey misogynist. It brought a tear to my eye.

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Morrigon
04:17 Apr 28 2019

Oooh douchy misogynists! If you take into account how gamey they are you can make a delicious crockpot dinner.

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I posted the beginning (in bold) of this as a comment in imagesinwords journal, but I wanted to expand on it here:

It seems like a lot of 'I hate this person' around here is based on those things of 'so and so told me so said this or that now I hate them'. It's hardly ever the 'I don't like them because I don't like how they act, etc'.

I've often said the same if any of you have an issue with me, feel free to come to me in a PM and ASK me, but it never happens. It's so much easier to believe the lie/lair than it is to person up and ask someone. There are times that I've known a person tells someone else just how much they hate me, yet when I've had to interact with them/confronted them they are just as friendly as can be. It's one thing to not like someone and act like adults with a professionalism, and another to be shady and act like friendly acquaintances. It's shady as shit.

I know a few insidious things told about me have kept people out of my inbox for one of the reasons I've mentioned above. It really isn't a big deal to me because if that's how a person determines how they like/dislike a person, I don't have time for that. The only reason it does bother me is because it puts more work onto you (images) when there are issues afoot.
Until some people start thinking for themselves and stop being so easily decieved/manuplaited, what can ya do?

Really, there is nothing you can do. People will believe what they want to believe. Some people like to live in the fantasy the lies create. It doesn't matter what proof to dispel the lie is presented, they do nothing but shun it and hold on tighter.

Also, some people just want to be mad.



The solution in this case- personing up.

I've never had any issues with telling a person if I have an issue with them when asked. Hiding it is not something I've ever been able to do. If you hear I have a problem with you through so and so because so and said so said, then ask me. I'll tell you straight up.

This is why I just stick myself and the few that I really trust. I'm at the age where I just would rather enjoy the times than worry about the other junk like hating people, fighting, etc. I really don't hate anyone. I'd rather use that energy for something far less toxic.


To stop assholitry is a personal choice.

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Owlish
23:01 Apr 26 2019

One of my favourite sayings is "Not reading comment sections is an act of self-care", and in the VR world, that extends to journals and their comments, too. People entiely have the ability to end all of tbeir conflicts by simply stopping what they're doing. If you don't ignite it, it doesn't catch fire. If you don't bring wood, there's no fuel.

I also think these people assume everyone else is shady and shallow, because it's their normality - it is how /they/ act, so they assume others are the same.

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MooniePie
23:19 Apr 26 2019

The Internet proves anonymity which is both a blessing and a curse. With all the things that people can be in the world, why chose to act like a human garbage fire? It's so sad.

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Owlish
23:34 Apr 26 2019

It's a sadder existance, that's for sure. I don't know how people have the time for it. It's the same stuff on repeat.

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Might as well purge some mind cluster here..

Every once in a while I'll randomly lose my mind and get that random feeling of 'hmm, maybe I need to date'. Then it is quickly followed by remembering what a shit-show my last relationship was and the bat shit crazy d-bag it was with. -shudders-

Anyway, on a random lose my mind moment whim, I joined a site years ago. I stopped venturing there and didn't delete the profile because I just didn't think about it. It out was of 'site'..heh.. out of mind.

After a year and forgetting about it, I get a email that a rando sent me a message. Curiosity struck, so I logged in to look. That turned into a few hello's and the dutiful creeper sending his 'Do you want a massage' message. Ick.

One person lives maybe 20 minutes away. We've chatted back and forth, randomly. Nothing of substance. Seems nice like nice guy. Not creepy or anything like that.
Then BAM that feeling of UHHH just hits me as I remember the things that are involved in a relationship. That inviting a person into your life, calling/texting, explaining my crippledness and all the junk that comes with that, smashing, being vulnerable.. gawd.. it requires so much effort and all that makes me so tired to even think about.

I can't help but wonder is this 'normal'? Am I weird? Do other people do through this? I can't be the only one. My mind at times is like a dumpster fire.

I'm 39 and I'm content with just being me. I just wonder if this feeling of 'do not want' will ever change. I'm totally fine with it if it doesn't. It's just one of those 'I wonder' moments..

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Temno
13:20 Apr 25 2019

A spouse can make life so much better, or so much worse. I was messaged on one of those random sites I haven't logged into for 3-4 years, and now I am in an amazing relationship with a person off that site. Not the person who originally messaged me, another person I messaged.

I try leave as many doors open as possible.

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MooniePie
17:05 Apr 25 2019

Leaving the door open is good. Not everyone can handle a relationship with someone who is handicapped. Which is probably why I lean more towards wanting to be friends first and not just throwing it all in there. I'm sure that's part of the reason for my relationship skittishness.

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Holyman
20:47 Apr 25 2019

You may be in a comfort zone. Perhaps fate will send uncomfortable change your way so you can meet "Mr. more right than wrong".

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MooniePie
20:56 Apr 25 2019

A comfort zone is a good way to put it.

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Temno
00:44 Apr 26 2019

A good man looking for a good woman won't let your physical limitations get in the way of happiness!

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MooniePie
01:32 Apr 26 2019

True that!

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Owlish
04:23 Apr 26 2019

It can be scary. When I first got ill a few years back, I was terrrrified that it would impact my relationship. It's not just a relationship, it then becomes something... different. Chronic illness and/or disability make things harder, and I think a lot more vulnerable.

You're worth the effort, Moonie. ❤

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MooniePie
04:59 Apr 26 2019

I'm not crying, you're crying! ❤ ❤

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Owlish
08:32 Apr 26 2019

You're one heck of a gorgeous peach. ❤

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