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Friendship definition.16:22 Oct 24 2006
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I have been thinking alot about friends and what the definition is. Here is mine, tell me if you agree:
-A friend is one that is there to celebrate your goals, accomplishments and achievements, as well as your failures, let downs and set backs.
-A friend is one that, if they do speak behind your back, they are honest enough to tell you about it.
-A friend will be honest with you, kicking you up side the head if needed, to make you see the light.
-A friend won't hold back, even if they know the knowledge they possess might hurt you. Honesty is always the best policy.
-A friend will defend you and protect you, viciously if needed.
So, this is how i feel about friendship. How do you know if i consider you a close personal friend? If you have to ask, then you probably aren't. There are different levels of friendship.
Acquaintenance - This is someone you barely know but you are being polite about everything. If they ask you, How are you? Generally you will say good, no matter how you feel or what you are going through. The level of trust hasn't been built yet.
Friend - You know this person and have good interesting conversations. You inquire into their well being but so far haven't reached having that deep conversation that will change their status. I trust them, but maybe not with my most intimate thoughts yet.
Best Friend - These are few and far between and the title isn't to be throw around easily. This friend is cherished and you feel a hole in your heart when you don't talk to them for awhile. This is the person you trust with your most intimate thoughts and know that betrayal by them could be a heartbreaker but you chance it anyways.
Unfortunately, I tend to trust once. If you hurt me, or break my trust, you won't get my full trust back. The only exception to this is Best friends. Sometimes, you need to hurt to let the relationship grow. My sense of distrust might come from the abusive relationship, where I'm sorry and i will never do it again, rang a sour note because i heard it so many times. So, an apology will only get you so far with me, especially if i don't think it is heartfelt or if you don't know exactly what you are apologizing for. Actions speak louder than words, with me.
What brought on this? I'm not sure. Maybe my friendship with others is being tested and i'm trying to equate myself with that I am learning. Maybe I am feeling bad about being judgemental and i'm trying to put it right in my head. No matter what, these question will plague everyone until the end of time.
-How do you decide who to be loyal two between friends? Easy answer is the one that didn't put you in that position in the first place right? yeah ok...maybe, try it.
-How do you decide when someone is hurting you, if they are oblivious or doing it purposely? Yeah interesting thought huh?
-How do you figure out if you are letting past hurts, interfer with what you think of a current friend? No comment on this one.
Interesting questions huh? Give me a shout if you figure it out, please.
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shadowofmystry
19:59 May 13 2008
I agree with your thought and i love the way you lay it out and explain everything