00:45 Oct 07 2008
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I'm sorting through my thoughts here...please forgive me.
Words can and do hurt. I have as many opinions as anyone else. I am strong-willed, passionate and endowed with a moral compass that works for me. I read the words in journals. I hear the words of people around me every day of my life. Of course, every statement here probably applies to you as well.
I own knives. Knives can be weapons. I could use my knife to hurt or take a life. Instead, the most action they have seen is the slicing of tomatoes for my salad.
I have opinions. I have a mouth. I have rights. I have a journal...
You see what I'm saying. Just because I can doesn't mean I should. If I hate what you are about, I won't shame you...I will dissociate. I will choose not to feed, water, and sun your weedy disposition.
If it is a differing opinion or behavior, I will try to keep that separate from the person, whom I may still find interesting and worth knowing. In this way, I have found a rich and abundant life filled with all sorts of different people who quite often do not agree with me, people I am warned about or counseled to steer away from.
Not agreeing with me is not a personal attack upon me. I see so many people robbing themselves because that concept is alien to them. Please, disagree with me. Make me think. Show me a different way to look at something. Even if I keep my position, I've been enriched by your company, and hopefully, you have been by mine.
The people who know me well know that I love words. I love words the way artists love color and brushes. I love words the way musicians love notes. Words create and words destroy. There are still reasons that I believe are worth war, but not very many.
If you are a parent, you are familiar with "pick your battles." Ripped bluejeans and pink highlights in the summer...not a battle. Flunking an assignment because you didn't do the work...battle. There should be a whole lot less battles than peaceful solutions. That goes for life. Life should be a celebration of the places where we differ, or at least a mostly peaceful place to explore them.
Don't be so damned afraid that someone's opinion is going to stick to you. It isn't napalm. You'll live. Get out there and try on a few. If it doesn't fit or you don't like the color, you can return it...I promise. No heads necessarily need to roll.
Here's a little opinion of mine to try on. If you hate it, feel free to lob it back through my window. Your venom is vile and says so much more about you than it does about the person you are describing. Think about the words you choose. Is that the word you'd like your kid to hear you call someone? If someone throws a flaming poo bomb on your yard and you add a sock full of monkey syphilis to it and lob it back over the fence, sure, you're creative...sure, you will get a few weak people who clap and nod, but dude...you just spread monkey VD.
Before you think me self-righteous, I'm here to tell you that I'm a flawed human being. I think petty thoughts. I have gossiped when I wish I hadn't. I've made terrible choices along my way in life. I just don't celebrate those things. They give me a sick feeling in my gut that makes me want to be better, makes me want to always behave as though my kids might be looking.
I'm working on it...I really am.
COMMENTS
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STABB666
19:54 Oct 11 2008
Are you a little bit tipsy again?
Morrigon
19:56 Oct 11 2008
Oooooh I like it!
I get the whole "I'm going to call myself a bitch/asshole so no one else can do it" mentality... The fear of having someone else say it... But you're right, it's weak, it dumbs down whatever you have to say.
Being an asshole/bitch is not hard. It's not challenging, nor is it tough. It is boring.
*cheers*
BLOODLIFE
19:58 Oct 11 2008
omg .. I came here to comment and I see stabb, now that changes things.
Good to see ya back!! ... btw Aunty .. I agree!
StoneCrow
20:24 Oct 11 2008
So I if I said something like "I am gonna be a bitches asshole...blah,blah,blah" I would be looked at funny? 0.o :)
atyourwindow
20:42 Oct 11 2008
well im a polite asshole, have a nice day!
NightBlossom
23:00 Oct 11 2008
To quote the Duc:
Stick that in your juicebox and suck it.
(stolen from Khayman)
placidchaos
00:33 Oct 12 2008
Asshole actually has a slightly broader range of use than most people apply to it, most use it to mean the completely tactless jerk or the guy who is irrationally angry. Maybe it's just me, but I don't use that to imply any irrationality or rudeness. The only reason I tell people that is because a lot of them seem to like getting on my bad side until they're there so I figure if I warn them ahead of time they won't do it. It's not something I value being or am proud of, I just know myself enough to be honest. Let's face it though, there's maybe a handful of people that can say they're not some of the time but some of us are more so than others. For me it varies too, sometimes I'll say that after one of my more mischievous moments and I know anybody subjected to me in that mood is thinking the same thing. We are who we are. If this sounds argumentative please don't take it that way since it isn't meant that way.
toor
02:27 Oct 12 2008
I am of the opinion that I should play hide the sausage with your buns.
Beastt17
07:58 Oct 12 2008
From a slightly different perspective, assholes can actually be quite skilled. They can retain solids, liquids or gas and can practice a selective release, save for the presence of both liquid and gas at the same time.
But then... that's not what we're talking about, is it?
birra
02:54 Oct 13 2008