Wedding-Ring By Denise Levertov ©
My wedding-ring lies in a basket as if at the bottom of a well.
Nothing will come to fish it back up and onto my finger again.
It lies among keys to abandoned houses,
nails waiting to be needed and hammered into some wall,
telephone numbers with no names attached, idle paperclips.
It can't be given away for fear of bringing ill-luck.
It can't be sold for the marriage was good in its own time,
though that time is gone.
Could some artificer beat into it bright stones,
transform it into a dazzling circlet
no one could take for solemn betrothal
or to make promises living will not let them keep?
Change it into a simple gift I could give in friendship?
I found this poem while searching for other poems to add to my profile. It kinda hit me in a certain spot tonight ... if I were to be honest right now I'd have to say that I still wear my wedding band ... not the engagment ring, nor the is it worn on the proper finger or hand for that matter. I wear it on my right hand, more as a symbol to me ... you see do to the circumstances of which Mike was in I MYself had to pick out my own rings, and pay for them MYself, not that, that is too unusual in this day and age ... but the set that I picked out ... the engagement ring has an itty bitty stone (as I'm not big on diamonds even though it's my birthstone) and on either side of the stone is a cross and a leaf like design. The band has three cross, as does the males band ... I had chosen it because at the time the crosses meant a great deal to me and my faith. As it was my faith that carried me a great deal through the past five years. And while I'm truly confused as to what my faith is at this point, crosses have always meant something to me, AND I really like the design on the ring, I wouldn't have picked it out if I didn't LOL My engagement ring now sits in it's little box either in my jewlery box or packed up amoungst my things in a box somewhere in the back of the closet. And his ring ... well he carelessly lost it down the drain in the showers at the prison ... so much for that I guess ...
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People just have no clue what it takes to get to this point ... >;^} Needless to say it does make me happy ... the hardest part is MAINTAING the 100% as new people join everyday and there are only 876 portfolios out of a possible 2133 right at this very moment ...
Well, last night, or rather early this morning I began redoing my profile. It's not complete, I'm still coming up with things to add and have some other ideas, so it will be a work in progress as the days go by. I don't know when it will be done, or what all I have in mind for it ... when it's done though I'll know. And as you can see to I have pictures back up .. still not sure if this is the one I want to leave, but so far seems many people like it LOL I really realize now, sexual/sensual sells ROFLMAO not that I hav anything to sell really, but i recieved a few off the wall comments this morning after changing my picture ... Then again I'm used to that I guess, but at the same time it still kind of shocks m when i get messages like that. >;^} People are strange ...
On a side note, the soon to be ex should be getting the letter tomorrow as today is a holiday, unless he got it on Friday, but that would have been a little too soon. I hope he doesn't take forever writing me back, as I took him, not that I can't say as I wouldn't deserve it ...
Well I decided to go on a picture taking binge .. the results are in my portfolio .. and as you can see i have put up a picture again ... granted it's not the "neeky pic" like everyone wants to see .. you people have either gotten so used to seeing a half nakkee Dami or you really like me ROFLMFAO hehehe just kidding. I can't decided yet which one I really want to post as my avitar, so it will likely change a few times over the next few days ...
How time will heal
Make me forget
You promised me
Time will heal
Make me forget
You promised me
Love will save us all
And time will heal
You promised me...
How love will save
Make me forget
You promised me
Love will save
Make me forget
You promised me
Time will heal us all
And love will save
You promised me...
I trusted you
I wanted your words
Believed in you
I needed your words
Time will heal
make me forget
And love will save us all
You promised me another wish
Another way
You promised me another dream
Another day
You promised me another time
You promised me another life
You promised me..
So I swallowed the shame and I waited
I buried the blame and I waited
Choked back years of memories...
I pushed down the pain and I waited
Trying to forget...
You promised me another wish
Another way
You promised me another dream
Another day
You promised me another time
You promised me...
Another lie
Oh you promised me...
You promised me... You promised me...
And I waited... And I waited... And I waited...
And I'm still waiting...
After all the heartache and dis-trust, and lies believed ... I will no longer wait ... let me go please ...
Not bad for about 2 minutes writing off the top of my head ... ROFLMAO ... see ya in a bit !!!
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Well i have come to the conclusion that I am going mildly crazy at the moment .. so i have decided to just stop and give up for a time .. I have some shit ... as who ever has been reading, has read .. that I've been going through ... I'll still be here, and doing my usual thing .. but at this point I just need to clear my head ... for a while ... which means there is likely to be a whole lot of random shit posted up in here over time ... so just deal with it .. but thank you all for taking the time ... love ya's... Dami ....
All of this has been bottled up inside of me for far to long .. everything I have written in the last 48 hours ... I have needed to let go all of my burdens, thoughts and feellings some I have held on to for years with no way to release them no way stop the pain I've felt .. now I feel empty
I don't know why, silly as it sounds but for me and me alone, I felt the need to have to post this here. I've never kept any kind of real journal, I've started several but end up going by the wayside .. this is truly the only journal I've ever kept .. so i guess this is why i felt the need to place it here ..
What can I say? I know, not a whole lot at all. I’ve gotten you cards and letters, and no matter how hard I tried, I just have not been able to sit and write you. I do not know why. I guess because I know when I do, I cause you pain. I’m in pain, I’ve been in pain for a very long time. Regardless of what you may think, there is still a part of me that does care about, but I don’t know that I can say loves you? But I came to realize, what was there all along. What I tried so hard to avoid from the beginning. We both know that I should never have come on December 27th 1999. We both know that we should have just taken that weekend and kept it as a memory. But we tried to make something more out of it, knowing full well that it wouldn’t last. We both know what you faced in the months to come with the trial and what the outcome was to be. Why we didn’t just leave things as they were I’ll never know, nor do I wish to dwell on it anymore. We are at this point now .. I do want to clarify a few things first ... All of your belongs were picked up by XXXXX and XXXXXX and held at their home .. Of which I told you that they were, and that I trusted them whole heartedly. You knew you had to make arrangements for your PARENTS to pick them up and not that 350 pound fucking fat ass bitch .. And yes I am going to sound really bitchy when I talk about her because you know damn good and well that she was the problem all along. I told you from day one that she had a thing for you and that she disliked me yet she would pretend to be my friend because she thought it would make her look good for you. You can deny all that I have said all along but when you look back and think of everything that I said about her you will see that I read her like an open book .. And when I said that in the end she would be the one to destroy what little we had .. Well you can see that I was right. It is not my fault that you can not get your things from her now. Secondly, as for the bigger things like the tv and air conditioner, you know damn good and well that they were both shot .. So I’ll say no more about that. You can threaten to sue me all you want but it will do you know good.
I know that I sound or feel like I’m being a cold hearted bitch to you, and I guess I am, but after all the pain you put me through, after all the tears I cried, I have no more to cry. I tore down a wall and let you in when I didn’t think that would ever happen. I gave you my heart to hold and cherish, to nurture, and help grow, and all I feel I received for the better part of the last 5 years was the life’s blood being sucked right out of me. I encouraged you, lifted you, and carried you through the worst of what you had to face, and while I know you say that you love me and respect me for that, your other actions and words speak louder. At the lowest point of my time down there, when I needed you most, you were not there for me. Two times in particular. I won’t go back into them because you know what and when. You know how you acted and the words you said. I truly tried to look through it all and tried to be understanding of WHERE you are, and the mind set, but just as it is the opposite side of the coin, neither of us could truly understand what the other one faced each and everyday. It was time to face reality, and accept what from the beginning was inevitable. There is just too much time, time that I can not face out here alone, not when I don’t feel I have the support that I need from you.
Please do not try to make me feel guilty or wrong in saying things like “I’ll see you on the other side” and “life alone isn’t worth going through...”, if you think that I don’t know what it’s like you are wrong ... Let me know what you intend to do, if you truly refuse to file the papers, then I guess I will have to find a way to do them from here.
I don’t even know if I can even say that I am sorry, because I don’t feel that I have anything that I should be sorry for, I gave you my heart. I did everything I could to nurture yours and show you that you were worthy of being loved, and that there could be more for you, all the while you crushed mine between your hands. I do not hate you, and a part of me will love you again in time, but right now, I am left to rebuild, again....Deanna
Damn it why can't life me simpler??? I want to write, I have so much floating around inside my head. So many different beginnings, some middles and some ends, but I can't put them together to form anything coherent.... it's driving me up a wall.... If I could just write one thing then maybe the rest would unravel itself in my mind. I hate having writers block, I hate when there is so much going on at one time that I can’t think straight. I can sit here, or lay on my bed for hours and hours staring at the walls and ceiling and not one single coherent thought will come of it. I too have things I want to write, but I'm not sure how they will be taken by everyone who reads this .. normally I'll rant and not care .. I don't now, so what is my problem? I know if i force things out they will be nothing but crap. I have another protion of my story I want to write .. and yes believe it or not there is an actual story to come through what I've written so far in my "Story" section. It's in my mind, but I again can't seem to put it all together. GRRRRRRR FUCK!!!
Wouldn't you like to know >;^} LOL
Well I had to get out for a bit. I did, I watched my niece and nephew on Saturday afternoon. It was great watching them play in their little turtle sand box. Pretending that the lid was a boat and the grass was the ocean with sharks in it. It's amazing what little kids can come with out of their minds for being not even 5 and 4. I also realized that my niece will do something with words when she gets older. Out of the blue she could throw words together and she must have come up with like 4 or 5 different songs off the top of her head. Then she started telling me these little stories about alien like people she knew. I tried to think of what I was like around her age, but the only thing I remember is the fighting, separation, divorce and then my mom dying, so ya know ... enough about that. After my sister got home I decided to for sure meet someone for the first time in person. What can I say, they were pretty much what I had pictured in my minds eye, of course they told me what to they looked like, but it's hard to picture a person how they see themselves a lot of the time. In person they were pretty much the person who I've come to know on here. I just feel bad that they were a bit under the weather, but I’m sure they weren't expecting to be either. I am glad that I made the 4 hour drive despite that my back is killing me, no not what you are thinking LOL But let's just say I didn't sleep to well, it was a bit cold and uncomfortable, but it was better then the cement floor LOL A little bit of advice ... don't drink and play basketball er rather PIG especially not in heals .. and always watch where you are walking .. I really fucked up my ankle up walking on this really fucked up sidewalk with like 3 dips right in a row, on the way to the park. It's swollen and hurts to put pressure on it. So that was my weekend in a nut shell ...
ne ner ne ner
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Well, almost 24 hours later of actual physical time searching for the answers and I finally found it. Needless to say not 30 minutes passed without someone messageing me for a hint .. well you won't get one here .. right now my heart is no longer in this contest, yes I want to win, I have never won anything in my life .. but now I get messages from people being mean and rude because maybe I want to revel in the moment a little ... well you know what .. too fucking bad .. I worked on this for at least 3/4 of the 24 ON MY OWN!!! Deal with it!!! You have no different answers then I have ... it's there find it, you really won't believe it when you do.
But like I said, my heart is no longer in this becasue while I've been laughing and cutting up and researching all of this, other things more important then a lifetime membership have been at stake ... A life was at stake and it was lost ... about two hours after I figured it out I checked my eamil and this is what I recieved from my "sister" at my church from down in Gerorgia, these people are my family, more so then most everyone here on this site ..
"Steve and Cheryl XXXXXXXXXX have a son named Alex.Last night he was in a car wreak with another teenager. He was in the back seat(thats all I know) He was about 13/14 years old and did not like to do the church thing,what his step mom told me.
.....I was just notified that he was brain dead...PLEASE...PLEASE PRAY for this family .
This is TWO children from our church family that we have lost in two weeks.
thank you"
Cheryl was my boss at the last job I worked at before moving back home to Chicago. My heart is breaking and somehow this contest no longer seems important ...
Ok so I have been working on this Stage for 17 hours now, 14 straight yesterday and so far 3 today .. whilst searching and researching anything and everything I can think of I have come across many little things to keep my sanity ... so I thought I'd take a few moments break and un cross my eyes and post a few of them here in my journal. I have also come to figure out, as if I didn’t already know it deep in my subconcious ... WOW I really need to get a life, or a hobby or something ... it’s a wonder I truly am not ripping out what little hair I do have trying to figure this out ... Cancer was right, it’s not easy, hasn’t been all along .. It helps when you have a select FEW that you are working with and sharing ideas ... and together coming up with the answers .. However I am with the like mind of a few others on here .. I ranted it about it, posted it here in my journal then removed it .. I am now putting it back in here .. Because it really irked me last night when someone I was working with at one point said that they hadn’t been trying to figure this out, that they were going to wait until someone else got it and then hopefully that person would return the favor ... yeah admittedly I have shared answers, and I realize probably WAYYY to many ... but I shared with people who were working with me to figure things out ... now I see jsut how lazy some people are ... so here is my rant and then the musings I found to keep me sane ... Hope you enjoy them ... if not .. Tough shit I don’t care ... ROFLMAO ... I can jsut balme this on the Contest!!!
Dami’s Rant begin’s ...
Ya know ... I don't mean certain people because I know they are researching the answers .. but I am getting really sick and friggin tired of people messaging me for the answers for everything ... I mean I don't mind helping out those that are sitll at the 2nd or 3rd level's .. but when you ask me for a tip or hint and you're on level 2 or 3 then you come back like 30 or so minutes later and want to know the answers to the level i just finsihed .. that tells me that they are hitting up everyone you know just to get the answers without looking for them, yourselves .. so from here on out I'm not helping no one but a few select that have been helping me .. IE... they know who they are .. it's nerve wracking to research this stuff for hours and have peoplel do that .. so they can excuse me, and call me a bitch if they want but shit ... Oh and people who have never before even said BOOO to me... hitting me up for answers .. yes admittedly I am working with 3 people, and helping a select few who have helped me with an answer or direction .. ... but tit for tat .. ya know what I'm saying ... And yeah I knwo I'm sure to make alot of enemies over the next few days for being a bitch about it .. I guess I'll deal with it ... ya all know how to use the web .. do like I'm doing RESEARCH IT!!!
Ok Dami's Rant over LMAO ... grrrrrr
NOW ... enjoy >;^}
They were together in the House.
Adam and Eve said, "Lord, when we were in the garden, you walked with us every day. Now we do not see you any more. We are lonesome here, and it is difficult for us to remember how much you love us."
And God said, "No problem! I will create a companion for you that will be with you forever and who will be a reflection of my love for you, so that you will love me even when you cannot see me. Regardless of how selfish or childish or unlovable you may be, this new companion will accept you as you are and will love you as I do, in spite of yourselves." And God created a new animal to be a companion for Adam and Eve. And it was a good animal. And God was pleased. And the new animal was pleased to be with Adam and Eve and he wagged his tail.
If a packet hits a pocket on a socket on a port,
and the bus is interrupted at a very last resort,
and the access of the memory makes your floppy disk abort,
then the socket packet pocket has an error to report.
If your cursor finds a menu item followed by a dash,
and the double-clicking icon puts Your window in the trash,
and your data is corrupted cause the index doesn't hash,
then your situation's hopeless and your system's gonna crash!!
If the label on the cable on the table at your house
says the network is connected to the button on your mouse,
but your packets want to tunnel to another protocol,
that's repeatedly rejected by the printer down the hall,
and your screen is all distorted by the side effects of gauss,
so your icons in the window are as wavy as a souse;
then you may as well reboot and go out with
a bang, 'cuz sure as I'm a poet, the sucker's gonna hang!
When the copy of your floppy's getting sloppy in the disk,
and the macro code instructions cause unnecessary risk,
then you'll have to flash the memory and you'll want to RAM your ROM.
Quickly turn off the computer and be sure to tell your Mom!
Does that make it clear for everybody?????
Ok here goes, it's been a long time since I've had a good RANT and I'm hot this morning!!! You've probably read the title and are thinking "Here we go anther one bitching about thread!" Welp! you got that right ... I'm not bitching about the quality of the topics of the threads because we all know that they FUCKING SUCK! here lately, well shit for going what 2 months. We must be in a dry spell for intelligent conversation around here. Either that or over run by babies who don't know their asses from a hole in the ground. All the good threads that people actually put time and effort into researching always fall to the back .. but hey that's nothing new around here. Here's nothing new to ... Do people ever actually READ the damn thread? Not just the headline, but do they actually read the posts in it? Fuck no they don't. Hell some idiots will even go so far as to say .. "I didn't read this all..." ... then what the fuck are posting for???? Huh? Because when you post you sound even stupider then what the actual thread is all about. Half the fucking time either what that idiot says has already been said, or is so way off topic that it doesn't even make sense... go figure! There is a thread in particular that people really get on my fucking nerves with, it just crawls under my skin when I read it ... oh yeah I know what you are thinking right this second..."Well then just don't read it!" Well that would be well and good, except that the thread actually pertains to the site or rather the people on the site ...this one... What really fucking pisses me off is that people don't READ the fucking thing ... Listen I'm happy for you that your baby sister Joe Blow's birthday or your mom's or your grannys is coming up big fucking deal .. I honestly don't give a shit .. are they on the site???? No they aren't .. HOWEVER .. I do care if it is YOUR birthday, and I would like to be able to wish YOU a Happy Birthday!! I'm NOT going to wish your mom or dad or sister or brother or dog or cat or your fucking mouse a Happy Birthday! SO stop fucking posting that it's Joe Blow's birthday if Joe Blow isn't on the fucking site .. Dami's rant OVER!!!
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