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I relate to this because I’m involved with a self harmer…..

Self-harm can be a way of dealing with deep distress and emotional pain. It may help you express feelings you can’t put into words, distract you from your life, or release emotional pain. Afterwards, you probably feel better—at least for a little while. But then the painful feelings return, and you feel the urge to hurt yourself again.
Injuring yourself is often the only way you know how to:
· Cope with feelings like sadness, self-loathing, emptiness, guilt, and rage

· Express feelings you can’t put into words or release the pain and tension you feel inside

· Feel in control, relieve guilt, or punish yourself

· Distract yourself from overwhelming emotions or difficult life circumstances

· Make you feel alive, or simply feel something, instead of feeling numb

Loving a person that self harms
There is always a good reason.

Judging and criticising will always make it worse.
They know it doesn’t make sense.
But if they don’t want to talk about it …
It’s often not about one feeling.
No, They can’t remember how it felt last time.
They don’t do it to hurt you. Even though it does.
It’s something they do, not who they are.


You need to:
Show compassion
Respect what the person is telling you, even if you don’t understand it
Stay emotionally neutral
Listen, even if it makes you uncomfortable
Encourage them to use their voice, rather than their body as a means of self-expression
Encourage them to seek mental health care but don’t be pushy

The Don’t do:
Pity them
Joke about it
Guilt them about how their actions affect others
Give ultimatums
Remind them how it looks or what people will think
Make assumptions

Never be dependent to anyone in this world
Because even your own shadow leaves you
When you’re in the darkness.

Monsters don’t sleep under your bed
They scream inside of your head.

The scariest monsters are the ones that lurk within our souls….

What had happened to the Rave?
I know I’ve not been on here in a long time, I remember it being a great place. I’ve even noticed that some of the House leaders have not been on in years. It makes me sad to see that my old friends are not here.

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Toxicbite29
09:52 Oct 07 2021

I have been feeling the same. Vampire Rave has been like a second family for me where I can be myself without judgement.

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