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FINALLY! Its Thanksgiving break!



Not really a break but I'm done and off for the rest of the week so a mini break!



My bro is home from college (WAHOO!), we're planning out the dinner menu (I'm drooling just thinking about it), and it's just nice to have the time to do whatever... even if its for a few days :)



Today is a smiling day!

Wow. Seriously?!?



I get it. Rejection hurts. But it happens... that's LIFE nut up already!



No, I was not interested in you. In fact you liked pretty much everything that annoys me to death.



Your spelling was HORRIBLE! I'm dyslexic and can still manage to get MOST things in their right place. I'm not saying I'm perfect, I'm far from it, but come on! You were just being lazy.



Then after I politely and respectfully declined you go and insult me! What was that for?! I have every right to say no so BACK OFF!



Furthermore you declare that I "WILL LIKE YOU!" Umm are you kidding?! I've played the abusive and controlling relationship game and I will NOT go back there again.



Ugh! I don't get it! I'm no pleasant pixie but I don't deserve that... I give up spinsterville here I come

I know that you can't "save everyone" and sometimes people just don't want to be saved....



But



What do you do when you love someone who repeatedly rips your heart out, stomps on it and throws it away to do something so damaging to themselves. Then disappears for weeks, months, sometimes years at a time, leaving you convinced that this is the last time you'll hear from them.



So you lock up your feelings and care for them into the tiny attic in your heart. You move on with your life and tell yourself "there was/is nothing you can do." Only to have them pop back up again to start the cycle of caring and heartbreak all over again.



Is there ever a point when you stop trying to help?



Is there a wall you hit where you must weigh your feelings against their needs?



If you are the last person they can "really talk to" do you say "No I can't help you anymore?"



How do you let go of someone who has been in your life for 15+ years?



Is it worth it to "save yourself" while knowing they won't survive?



I'm so torn right now... I don't know what to do.

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AnaliethiaThionoeSangita
06:45 Dec 07 2010

wow that is very hard but sometimes the need to be needed is all that stops you from saying no, it's the role of addict and enaballer even if drugs are not involved. There behavior is what they are addicted to and they continue to do it because they have no consiquences no matter how bad they act you will always be there and they need tough love if you let them go it may take a while for them to get back on their feet and once they do they will be better off for it. but even if they don't perhapse it's time to look at it objectively and see it from the outside a third party perspective and as myself being one I can tell you in all honesty that they will only never recover from it if they never learn to stop treating you/others that way and if that is true they deserve to be alone, unless it is mental illness then they should be commited or put in therapy as well as you if you wish to continue to be around them. =) I hope this fresh perspective helps I do apologize for my lack of spelling and so forth i have no spell check and confess that i am terrible at it.

Ana

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As my best friend would say.



"You're too creative for your own good sometimes..." She tells me.



And I agree.



I just love too many things. So much so I end up sometimes being trampled by my own creativity.



So many things! So little time/space to express it! *implodes*